Glimmer Train July 2014 Very Short Fiction Award HONORABLE MENTION

http://lib.store.yahoo.net/lib/glimmertrain/2014-July-VSF-HONORABLE-MENTION-list.pdf

Very happy to report that my short story, “Tony Bennett, Aldous Huxley and Eddie”  received an Honorable Mention out of over a thousand entries in the Glimmer Train Very Short Fiction Contest, July 2014. Yowza!

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Scarred: What My Father Never Told Me

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The first week of each month, a check arrived in the mail, a mottled mint-green   check in a dark manila envelope with  the address in an odd typeface. My father’s name, including middle initial, peeked through the envelope’s cellophane  window.

“What’s that?” I asked my mother one day. I had seen this envelope arrive once a month for as long as I could remember. The Statue of Liberty lifted her lamp beside the golden door, in the upper left corner.  Unlike the flimsy paper checks my mother wrote to pay bills, this one was made of stiffer, more substantial stuff, more of a card than a check.

“That’s your father’s check,” she said. The first time I asked her, the government issued check was for nineteen dollars. Over the years, the amount increased, almost annually.

“Why?” I probed. “Why does he get that?”

She told me it was because of his injury  in  the war. He had a deep scar in his forehead from the time he served in the Navy. He was stationed mostly not at sea, but in Manchuria, where he was part of the Rice Paddy Navy, an outfit that monitored weather conditions. “Aerographer’s mate, first class,” he said,  when I asked what he did in the war. He was fascinated by weather, and often pointed out cloud formations to my sister and me as we sat in the backyard, or when we were driving down the highway. He taught us the vocabulary of clouds—nimbus, cumulus, and cirrus—and how to interpret the weather map in the evening paper. He informed us when a cold front was moving in, or when Baltimore was stuck in a low pressure system.  But he never explained the scar.

My mother claimed not to know the scar’s origin, either. All she ever told us was that he had a rough time during the war, that on two occasions he had been given the last rites because he was so ill. She said that when she went down to meet his ship when he came home from the war, she was shocked at how thin he was—down to 150 pounds from 185. His teeth needed work. And there was the scar, still red and angry in 1945 when he returned stateside.

 

When I was small I would sit on my father’s lap and sometimes play with his face—tickle his forehead, or his ears, softly kiss his eyelids when he was napping, and sometimes lightly trace the scar with my index finger. My fingertip slipped and eighth of an inch down into  an inch long valley, and I was always careful not to press too hard. Over the years the scar filled in and grew fainter, yet it was always visible, marring my handsome father’s perfect brow.

As a teenager, I started asking him how he got it. And he told me—but he told a different story each time. It was a piece of shrapnel from a bomb that did it, he said. Another time, he said he got it in a bar fight.  Someone hit him in the head with a bottle. My mother claimed not to know the real story. Maybe he got it in hand to hand combat, my college boyfriend opined.

And the check kept coming, month after month, from 1945 until 1992, nearly a half century of recompense for the wound and the scar. The mint-green checks stopped arriving in the ‘Eighties when the U.S. Treasury began using direct deposit, but the monthly stipend continued to flow into the household checking account, where it was likely channeled into small purchases—tickets  for the cheap seats at Orioles games in Memorial Stadium, library fines for overdue or lost books, half soles and heels on my sister’s and my school shoes,  a wash and set for my mother at Salvatore’s Beauty Salon.  As my father’s  scar receded, the check grew larger.

There was even a fat book—629 pages—devoted to the Rice Paddy Navy, the outfit headed up by Admiral Milton “Mary” Miles. A Different Kind of War  paints the unit as a  group of guerilla cadres, weather station staff, and invader of Japanese–held villages in China. My father has a small walk-on part  on page 204 of  this tome,  because  when he evidently  was in charge of procuring a case of Old Forester bourbon for the Christmas party in 1943.  Poring over the book for clues about how my father might have been injured in the head, I found none.

Recently, in an  attempt to solve this family mystery, I wrote to the  Veterans Administration to order a copy of my father’s military record, a move suggested by my librarian husband.  What I got for my time and a nominal fee was a brief statement of the years he had served, his induction date, and his discharge date.  I supposed I could follow up with a request for the full record, but perhaps it’s better to consign the mystery of the scar to history.

 

Still, I question whether there wasn’t some terrible, anguished story behind the scar. Perhaps the truth died with my father in 1992 a couple of weeks after Bill Clinton won his first presidential bid.  Is it better to reflect on my fathers’ many conflicting tales of how he was hurt, or to learn the truth? I’m still wondering.
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V.S.O.P. Reprise: We Meet the Beatles….

Find the chapter here.. about that night of February 11, 2014 when four Mercy girls attended the first ever American concert by the Beatles…

http://stillinschool.wordpress.com/2012/09/16/we-meet-the-beatles-part-2/

 

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Chanel: the Circle of a Scent

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The  marital bedroom –it did not rise to the level of “master bedroom”–sat at the rear of our small semi-detached home in a nondescript 1950’s housing development in northeast Baltimore, not far from the county line.  The old furniture was much too grand for its  humble setting. My mother’s dark mahogany dressing table, with three drawers on each side of the kneehole and Georgian turns and curves, was stuck  between a highboy chest of drawers that she and my father shared, and their twin beds, adorned with pineapples atop the four posts of each one. There was hardly room to turn without bumping into something, unless one was careful to make small, economical movements.

The dressing table was a world in itself, open to me only when I was invited—and supervised—by my mother. In our tight quarters, with just enough room for two growing girls and my father, the dressing table was Mother’s small place of elegance. She sat there each morning to put on her face, as she said, and to prepare for her long day of work. She might only be a fifth grade school teacher, but she began every Monday through Friday, on the bench with its graceful turned legs and brocaded seat.

Except on the day the cleaning lady polished the wood in the bedrooms and tidied up the tangle of  bracelets and necklaces, the dressing  table was littered with my mother’s  accoutrements—bangles, a Gruen watch with a delicate expanding wristband,  a light blue leather jewelry box that housed her clip earrings, and on a mirrored tray, an assortment of creams, rouge, face powder, and eye shadow.

Amidst this stuff was her perfume, the  scent   of special occasions—an important party, a fancy wedding, or one of those rare nights out to dinner with my father .  As far back as I can remember, her favorite scent  was Chanel No. 5 , woody, musky, floral, bright—all of those olfactory  contradictions in one perfect squared off bottle with a glass stopper. When I was little, she would pull open the stopper and dab a bit  behind each of my ears. The brightness of the scent, the cold feeling of alcohol when it first went on was almost overpowering, then quickly it smelled like  something else, more like flowers. Her dresses and suit jackets smelled faintly of it. Her scarf  and gloves drawer had traces of it, too. The scent mixed with the smell of her hair and her skin and became something entirely new, a bit like the eau de parfum in the square bottle, but something more familiar.  I loved how intoxicating it was, and I longed to be grown up so that I, too, could engage in that  ritual,  daubing Chanel inside my wrists, behind my ears, at the base of my throat, as I had watched my mother do over and over as she got ready. It was the last thing she did before she slipped on her high heels and went downstairs.

My mother was not well-travelled. Except for a few road trips to Florida in her twenties and thirties,  and a handful of train trips to New York City, she had hardly been out of Maryland. When I was ten  we drove to Michigan to visit a couple of my fathers’ war buddies and their families, first near Ann Arbor, and then, in Detroit. We stopped by to visit Dad’s first cousins in  Ohio on the way home. So Mother never bought her Chanel in Paris, or even at the duty-free shop on the way back from a trip to Europe. She bought it at Hutzler’s Department Store in downtown Baltimore, and she made it last for years. Perhaps too long, say the perfume experts, since  over time, as the French like to say, a perfume “turns,”  goes bad.

Some time in the ‘Seventies, long after I had  left home and  began teaching,  my mother abandoned Chanel. She briefly flirted with Shalimar, and by the time she was in her seventies, she had stopped using perfume altogether.  She gave me her old half-used bottles of this and that. She and my father spent half the year in Florida, where she stored her cosmetics in a drawer in the small bathroom of their manufactured home. Perhaps the times became less formal. Perhaps she  wanted to leave the past where it belonged, and only look forward. Over time the mahogany dressing table developed a large crack. My sister, who inherited my parents’ heavy mahogany furniture–or  got saddled with it–asked me if I would like to have the dressing table.  I had always wanted one, or so I thought, until I looked at my own surroundings and wondered  what I’d been thinking. There was no place in my  little house for such an old-fashioned  thing.

In high school, when I was invited to a special dance, my mother would let me use her Chanel. My babysitting earnings allowed me to buy  nothing more expensive than Jean Naté or Ambush–  I was strictly a drugstore customer when it came to cologne.   Then came a long line of favorites, as I moved through high school, college, my twenties, my thirties:   Wind Song, Shalmar, L’heure Bleu,  L’Air du Temps, Halston, Chanel’s Coco, Les Nuits D’Hadrien, Stella.

Then one day,  cruising the Internet,  I learned that The EU was considering legislation requiring  Chanel–and other European parfumiers– to revise  their formulas. In the case of Chanel No. 5, some scientists believed that the  wood and tree  mosses used in the classic Chanel No. 5 formula causes allergies. When I read this, I immediately knew what I would  do.

I went  to Macy’s and bought a bottle of Chanel No. 5 eau de parfum.

Recently, the French media reported that the EU has stepped away from its proposal to ban  or limit Chanel’s ingredients, at least for now.

There’s no dressing table in my house, but the new  flask  of No. 5  sits on my bureau, next to unused bottles of Stella and Clinique Aromatics.  I suppose I’ve come full circle.

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2013 in review: Thanks from the Author!

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

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A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 2,700 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 45 trips to carry that many people.

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Report on NaNoRiMo (National Novel Writing Month)

I ended up, as of the morning of Dec 1st, with 39, 600 words. That’s about halfway through a Zero draft, so I am continuing  on this project. Thanks to all of you who read the excerpts as I pumped them out!imagesall during December, and hope to complete a zero draft by the end of 2013.

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NaNoRiMo Excerpt # 1

My father walked to work across the big road  to Mike Schindler’s Cafe, an old roadhouse with a field stone foundation and a large living space on the second floor.  Old Mike had died years before, and his family  leased the business to my father and his partner, Dickie Ritz.  The inside of the place  was dark and long, and I was seldom allowed in there, because my mother frowned on it. When my father stopped there  on his day off to scoop up the money and take it to the bank, he let me sit up on a bar stool and choose two things to eat. I preferred a small bag of potato chips and a pack of Juicy Fruit.  As I worked it all into my mouth, the gum came apart, then gradually disappeared and I swallowed it along with the chips, savoring the perfect blend of sweet and salty. My father forgot I was there. He stood behind the bar and poured a little  glass full of brown liquid for a customer, then one for himself, then he and the man both drank  it  down fast.What’s that stuff, I asked, and Daddy said, That’s medicine  ’cause  when I was little, I got a snake bite. Then everyone laughed,  and I couldn’t figure out why.

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Late October Sestina

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For Don

I
We hear you ‘ve got more ice cream in the house.
Armed with mops and rags, friends came from Maine.
They scrubbed the floors, took on the basement room
Where the teenagers, years ago, would gather
Watch movies on the VCR, or blast their music.
You’re back awhile, another little furlough.
II
It must be odd, this practice of the furlough
The trips from house to hospital to house,
All that time you have now to listen to music,
To think on past Novembers, back in Maine,
Potato cellar work, when you would gather
The spuds, and carry them above ground to a room.

III
Amazingly, the house now has so much room
Kids gone, all schooled. Back then they had the furloughs.
From school to home to school, they’d gather
Books, laundry, CDs, laptops, strewn through the house
Then all too soon, they’d vanish. Thoughts of Maine
Gave way to missing them, their chaos and their music.

IV
Right now, if you can listen, there’s the music
Of juncos, maybe cardinals just outside this room.
Perhaps some came here when the first snow fell on Maine.
They think of Massachusetts as the place to furlough.
The fine old trees, the shrubbery near the house,
All shelter for these songbirds, so they gather.
V
They take off, just like planes, then once more, gather,
Trill, call out, caw, or chirp–I guess it’s music
To draw you from the inside of your house.
You tiptoe to the porch from living room
To savor every moment of your furlough.
You’re in the moment now, no thoughts of Maine.
VI
The weather’s getting colder up in Maine.
The forecasts call for snow showers, I gather.
Good thing you’re here, for your October furlough.
Warm days ahead where we are, good for music
From headphones or from speakers shaking the room,
“Take a load off, Fanny” reverbs throughout the house.

VII

May this restorative furlough, dear friend from Maine,
Your family in this house, as you all gather
Be your music, be your joy in every room.

From wikipedia.org: A sestina (Old Occitan: cledisat [klediˈzat]; also known as sestine, sextine, sextain) is a fixed verse form consisting of six stanzasof six lines each, normally followed by a three-line envoi. The words that end each line of the first stanza are used as line endings in each of the following stanzas, rotated in a set pattern.

The invention of the form is usually attributed to 12th-century troubadour Arnaut Daniel; after spreading to continental Europe, it first appeared in English in 1579, though sestinas were rarely written in Britain until the end of the 19th century. It remains a popular poetic form…

For the how-to, see this.  ~LSV

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Problem Sets


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For Sister Mary Joannes, RSM on her eightieth birthday

I. A Set of One

At fourteen, my teeth encased in braces

afraid of math, more afraid to fail but

burning up to beat down that language of numbers

with pencil and eraser,

I was a hard case.

But you cracked me,

made me ease up on myself,

showed me how the numbers worked out

on both sides of equations.

Your patience forced me.

Like a bulb pushing out green stalk

From a kitchen window in winter.

I extruded solutions,

learned the lexicon of x and y, q.e.d.

 

II. Keeping Track

One never thinks of a nun

as a bloodhound, but even once

we left school and plunged

fast into the world

you seemed always to find us,

trace our paths to a street address

or post office box.

You wanted news of our new lives,

details from the altar,

the nursery, the office, the court—

You made the connections we craved,

got them down in print, sent them off to us

like paper boats on the muddy river

their candles burning against the black water.

You were the reminder of where we’d been,

and why we had to hold you

and one another

in our hearts.

 ________________________

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Scented–Paris in Baltimore: Part 1

chanelsThe large square   bottle with its  bevelled stopper  looked like something  from a 1920’s drugstore. I remember that bottle as half full—or half-empty —of  amber-colored liquid. It seems to me now that the same bottle sat there for years, though my mother used it nearly every day, dabbing Chanel, as Coco herself  famously advised decades earlier, on the pulse points—the inside of the wrists, behind the ears, the base of the throat,on  the collarbones.  Mother did this quickly, as she was always rushed to get dressed, fix her hair, and “put on my face,” as she said. After her  efficient, well practiced sequence– a shower or sponge bath, putting on  what she referred to as her foundation garments, then nylon  stockings and a lacy white slip, she reached for the Chanel No 5 . Then she stepped into a dress, and sat down to apply  foundation, powder, a bit of rouge  and lipstick. I loved to stand behind her and watch her blot her lipstick on a white tissue. She rummaged in her jewelry box for earrings  and a  necklace or brooch–all costume jewelry, nothing expensive.   She slipped into high heeled  shoes (her sensible ones awaited her in her classroom, under the desk), and  was off to teach her fifth grade class. She worked hard, she was very  good at her job, and she was the most fashionable forty-year-old  in the Baltimore County Public Schools.

The Chanel No. 5  was tempting to me, but even as a seven year old I knew better than to try to gain access to it without permission. There was an often repeated  family story, told  to my great embarrassment, about an encounter I had with a very shiny, fake  gold bottle of men’s after shave lotion that sat perched high on my parent’s chest of drawers. My father called it  “stinksweet,” and dabbed some on my wrist after he splashed his face with the stuff after shaving. download (1) As our housekeeper Burnell recounted  it, I was in my crib napping in my parent’s room, and upon awakening and seeing no adult around, I  stood  on  tiptoes and stretched towards the bottle, loosened  the stopper, and doused myself. But when the cool liquid collided with the heat rash on my legs and began to sting, I screamed out for rescue. After that first encounter with scent, I stuck to less potent eau de toilette  doled out by my maiden aunt, Sara Jane, who lived on the first floor of our two family house. As I grew older, I favored small bottles of pink- tinted stuff  that  other little girls  gave me for my birthday. I liked these gifts much more  than those mustard seed necklaces with the Protestant booklets that accompanied them, or the imitation scarab bracelets.

When I turned ten, I suddenly became  interested in grownup things: nylon stockings and teen panty girdles to hold them up, Tangee natural lipstick and clear nail polish from the five and dime, fake pearls and face  powder. Summers, I might still play softball and ride my bike till I was a sweaty mess by dinner time, but when I cleaned up, I wanted to look like a young lady, not a tomboy. I began to take my mother’s advice, and after a  bath,  push back my cuticle with the edge of a towel. I started experimenting with hairstyles I saw in American Girl magazine. And the Chanel No. 5 on my mother’s dressing table seemed to call to me…

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Snapshots: True Stories

(1) 1964.

Mary Jane and I, just sixteen,  wait in the lobby of the old Baltimore Civic Center, waiting for the doors to open so we can be seated for a performance of the Royal Ballet. Suddenly a not-very-tall, muscular young man walks by us and smiles at us. He’s gone around a corner before we realize it ‘s Rudolph Nureyev. Mary Jane and I squeal  as we grasp each other’s hands and jump up and down in our high heels and nylon stockings and  Sunday best dresses. We’re in heaven.

 (2) 1970

Rick and I are walking back from a movie, or perhaps  a late dinner at Le Potiniere, on West 55th Street, where we always get free drinks because the owner thinks we’re a charming young couple. It is near midnight. A not very tall, very square-looking  grey haired man in a burgundy sport coat is staggering around a few yards away from steps down from the sidewalk level to a restaurant or perhaps a bar. He’s with two or three couples, and it seems he’s arguing with them. One of  the men takes him by the elbow and says, Ed, come on, it’s time to go home. Rick and I look at each other, amazed. It’s Ed Sullivan. A really big show, right there on West 55th Street. We can’t wait to call our mothers and tell them.

(3)  1978

Maureen, Peggy and I are  on West 47th Street looking for the Plymouth Theatre. We have tickets to see Runaways. Maureen is driving an enormous maroon  four-door sedan   her father gave her when he bought  a new car. We ‘ve dubbed it the Pimpmobile. We’re running late. Stop and ask someone, Peggy and I tell  Maureen, who  is stopped in traffic. She lowers the driver’s side window with the fancy automatic button, and  calls out to a guy jogging down the block in very short running shorts, “Where’s the Plymouth Theatre?” He stops, catches his breath, and calls over to us.” Two blocks down, 45th Street!” He jogs off. It’s Dustin Hoffman.

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Check out “Meat for Tea: The Valley Review,” Spring 2013 issue

pages 42-43, two of my poems,

“May Day”

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“Brantwood Lane Miscellany”

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Night at the D.C. Coliseum, Part 2: (We) Meet the Beatles in Concert

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 Tuesday was early dismissal day. I bolted when the bell rang at 2:20, gathered my books from my locker, and caught the first bus home. I raced through  homework, skipping algebra because I knew Chris would help me work out the problems before homeroom the next day.  I took off my white blouse and dark brown wool uniform skirt, and had a long shower, carefully washing my hair. Then I checked my face in the bathroom mirror, looking for new blemishes. I spent a long time getting my hair just right,  because I was in the process of  growing it out from an elaborate backcombed style with what we called shadow bangs. My ultimate goal was a perfect flip, like Seventeen model Susan Van Wyck, everyone’s  favorite. My short term goal was to keep my hair from frizzing up into a brunette halo.

It looked like we were in for a cold February drizzle. My mother made room in our station wagon, clearing out the books and papers she brought home each night from her job as an elementary school vice-principal.  Chris, Houch and Gay arrived, dropped off by their fathers. Each of them  carried a small overnight bag and  school books for the next day. We sat in the living room, chattering away, nervous and excited, while a cold drizzle began outside. Then it started to snow—wet, sloppy, slushy snow. And then, we lost it.

            “Oh, no!” we all began to wail. “Oh, oh, no!” We looked at my mother, who was gathering up her work papers  and handbag, and heading for the living room closet.

            “You didn’t think  a  little snow would keep us from driving to Washington, did you?” she said. She had called the weather service to find out how bad the storm was expected to be. “A little slush, a little cold rain,” she said. “Nothing I haven’t driven in before.” I noticed she was wearing her ankle high stadium boots.

            We  sighed and began to giggle again, wondering  what time  the Beatles would take the stage, what they would sign first, and whether we would be close enough to see them and toss the peanuts and jelly beans we had stashed in our pocketbooks. Mom  slipped into her gray wool coat and pulled on her good leather gloves

         “Let’s go, girls, we’re off—the Beatles await.”

        Our books lay in four stacks in the corner of the living room, the fat binders, Latin, history, and religion books and  experimental math texts with the bright yellow covers. I stopped to look at myself the full –length  mirror inside the closet door. I rubbed under one eye where my mascara had smeared. As we rushed to our station wagon, I smelled a heady mix of scents—Shalimar, Chanel No. 5, Wind Song. Mom refused to turn on the radio, the better to focus on the driving. I sat next to her and turned almost all the way around to talk with my friends.  We practiced  speaking in  Liverpudlian accents, then in our normal way about what we always talked about—homework, the nuns who taught us– especially our favorites, Sister Frederick and Sister Augusta– boyfriends if we had them (Gay and Chris did, Houch and I were still looking), the junior prom in three months’ time, summer jobs we’d had, summer jobs we wanted.

         As large wet snowflakes fell, the windshield wipers kept a steady, fast beat, My mother said nothing until she took a D.C. exit  off the parkway, and then, flashlight and map in hand, I gave her directions, turn by turn. Soon we pulled up in front of  the  Coliseum. We were an hour early, but throngs of teenagers, mostly girls, crowded the sidewalk. Uniformed D.C. cops stood near the door.

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            “Meet me here as soon as the concert is over,” Mother said. “I‘ll be right here, in this very spot. Don’t go anywhere else when you come out. If you don’t see me, wait—I‘ll circle the block.”

            At the time it never occurred to me to ask her where she planned to wait while we were screaming and jumping up and down in our seats  with thousands of girls just like us—and some boys. We walked into the old arena. I glanced back at the spot where my mother had dropped us off. The blue and white Chevy wagon was gone, and a yellow taxicab stood in its place. Slush seeped into my good black suede flats.  I pulled Gay by the hand  into the lobby of the coliseum, and Houch and Chris followed.

            Inside, we wandered up and down long aisles parting endless rows of seats, until we found an usher. The stage was a center ring, more suited for a boxing match than a concert. Ringo’s drum kit  faced squarely away from us, and we were already worried that we would have to watch only the backs of our beloved Fab Four.  Microphones stood at uneven intervals, and black speakers were positioned at each corner of the stage. We squeezed down a long row, climbing over small knots of girls and an occasional guy. When we reached our seats, we plopped down and looked around. I spotted Suzanne, our ticket benefactress, four seats down, along with three  of her girlfriends. They wore nearly identical plaid kilts and sorority sweaters. Suzanne and I stood up and talked over her friends. “Thought you wouldn’t make it!” she shouted. “We would’ve walked from Baltimore if we’d had to!” I yelled back.  I noticed that her summer bleach blonde hair was now a sedate chestnut brown,  in a perfect flip.

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       I’d like to say that what happened next is as clear as if it were yesterday. But in truth it’s a blurry memory, infused with music and sound, and  palpable adolescent energy as each musical act took the stage. The performers had to shift regularly during their sets so that each quarter of the audience could take a turn gazing on the faces of the performers. The night smelled of the old boxing arena,  hairspray and perfume of thousands of teenaged girls, and aftershave cologne of their  intrepid boyfriends along for the ride. Whether I wore my Mary Quant miniskirt and Peter pan blouse with the little black tie, or the big fuzzy gray and pink  mohair sweater my mother had knit for me, I can’t remember. Our outerwear–did  we wear hats and gloves, or  just our winter coats? Did we spend hours doing our eyeliner from a Maybelline dry mascara cake wet with tap water, and applied with a tiny brush, or did we just smooth on lipstick and go out the door to meet  the Beatles?

            What I do remember is enduring an endless parade of opening  rock and roll acts. Tonight, we wanted the Beatles. So we waited, increasingly impatient. We scanned the aisles to see if  the cops were drawing closer to the stage where we knew from reading Time and Life that they were there to keep girls from rushing the stage, clambering up and trying to tear the clothes off the Fab Four. The lineup of warmup acts began— Jay and the Americans. The Chiffons. The Righteous Brothers.   After about forty-five minutes,  Chris announced she had to go to the bathroom. “Not now!” I wailed. ”Yes, go now, right away! “ Houch advised.  Off to the ladies room Chris ran. When she returned, breathless,  she said she’d been in the stall when she heard loud screaming and applause, and she was sure she’d missed her very first chance to see her beloved George Harrison in person. But it was only yet another opening act.

        And then, at 8:31 PM our boys took the stage, and we were soon in monkey heaven. I remember these young men who seemed so much older than we were (though George Harrison was only  twenty,  Ringo and John were twenty-three, and John and Paul, twenty-one) singing above the cries, the shrieks and the screams. I remember the problems with the amps. I remember jumping up and down and holding my face and screaming “I love you, Paul!” I was one with my girlfriends and we were one with a crowd of eight thousand just like us. The police who guarded the stage might as well have been aliens from some other, quieter, more restrained planet, their faces impassive, their espontoons dangling from their belts.

       We screamed and  screamed until we were hoarse. And at the end, after the Beatles did a rocking rendition of Little Richard’s “Long Tall Sally,” complete with Paul’s falsetto “Wooooo!” they dashed off the stage to thunderous applause and more screams. The lights went down, and the coliseum began to empty. With a few other stragglers, we four approached the stage and leaned over to scoop up a few jelly beans and peanuts which a custodian was sweeping to the edge of the stage.We stuffed this  detritus into our pockets and  strolled to the front entrance.

             The snow had stopped.

            “How will your mother ever find us?” Gay asked.

            “Look.” I pointed straight ahead to our Chevy. My mother was smiling at us from the driver’s seat. A cop was standing nearby and he gave her a little wave. Had she turned on the charm so he would let her live-park there and wait for us? How long had she been waiting? Where did she go while we were inside having the time of our young lives? None of these questions ever  crossed my mind until years later. We navigated the slippery sidewalk to the curb and climbed into the car. We were too excited to nod off on the ride back to Baltimore, though it was well past our bedtime. When we reached my house, scrubbed off the mascara and lipstick, brushed our teeth, and got into our nightgowns, we remained alert and awake. We stayed up for hours, whispering in my bedroom, sleeping bags and air mattresses crammed in close. Would we ever get to meet our Beatles, one to one, in person? Would John ever get an annulment from Cynthia (and marry one of us)? We divvied them up: Gay had John, Houch had Ringo, Chris –of course—had George, and I had Paul, the Beatle with  the big expressive  eyes and the amazing voice, sweet at times, wild and soulful at others.

            The next morning we were  subdued and sleepy. My mother made us coffee.We downed orange juice and slowly gathered our books up, but our hearts were back  in that 1941 boxing arena. I looked down at my book in my math class and daydreamed, something I never did in school. I rested my head on my crossed forearms in study hall and dozed. I told everyone –including my Latin teacher, Sr. Jeremy, where we had been the night before. I heard the Beatles singing in my head, and  recalled the backdrop of screaming and hysterical cries –“Pauulllll! Georrrgggge!” in the coliseum.

            But a day or two later, it began to fade. My friends and  went back to our plans for Friday or Saturday night. CYO at St. Matthew’s or St. Ursula’s? Hang out at Chris’ house and stay up late watching the Steve Allen Show? Gay had  a date with her college boyfriend, the one with the red sports car. I wondered if  that senior from Loyola  would  ask me to one of those cool dances in the school library. We invited  our  classmate Debbie into our little Beatles club, and now we were five.

            We remained fans; after all, we had sworn, “Beatles Forever!”  We never went to New York to stand outside the Delmonico Hotel in New York and scream their names, but we  did go to  two of their 1965 concerts at the old  Baltimore Civic Center. Years after she’d been married, raised two daughters, and divorced, Chris went to England and made sure to include Liverpool in her route. She sent the rest of us postcards. Separated by geography and our busy lives, we still managed to commemorate anniversaries of that first concert, or to console each other with letters and phone calls after John Lennon was killed in the lobby of the Dakota in 1980, and when our beloved  George Harrison   died of cancer in 2001.

         Today, we five high school  friends live so far from each other–California, Maryland, Florida, North Carolina, Massachusetts. We gather in New York  from time to time for a reunion.   We ‘ve made a ritual of walking by the Dakota and then down to  Strawberry Fields in Central Park, where we think of John Lennon and Paul and Ringo and George, and how those days bound us together.

         Two years ago I persuaded my husband to go with me to Pal McCartney’s concert at Fenway Park. There he was, my Beatle Paul. He’d been married, raised kids, been widowed, married again, then divorced. He dyed his hair. I was married,  my sons were now in their twenties, and  I dyed my hair, too. There was no way around it. He was really old, and I was getting there. And when Paul sang “I Saw Her Standing There” I jumped to my feet and screamed with joy, just as I had on that cold, drizzly February night so long ago. My husband was amused and tolerant.

        Somewhere in my old trunk, next to the old-fashioned prom dance card booklets we never bothered to fill out, Army dogtags from my GI boyfriend the summer before I left for college, and ticket stubs from rock concerts and Broadway shows, there remains a small, beat-up plastic bag containing ossified peanuts and two yellow jelly beans from Ringo’s drum set, my  little piece of Beatle history.

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           Beatles’ Set List  , February 11, 1964, D.C. Coliseum

Roll Over Beethoven (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

From Me To You (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

I Saw Her Standing There (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

This Boy (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

All My Loving (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

I Wanna Be Your Man (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964).

Please Please Me (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

Till There  Was You (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

. She Loves You (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

I Want To Hold Your Hand (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

Twist And Shout [Incomplete] (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

Long Tall Sally (Concert Washington Coliseum – Feb. 11, 1964)

4/5 of the Beatles Club, Bethany Beach, DE, 2102

4/5 of the Beatles Club, Bethany Beach, DE, 2102

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Beatles Night at the D.C. Coliseum- Part 1

The Beatles, February 11, 1964, at the D.C.Coliseum

Mary Jane and I were ecstatic when Suzanne, our new friend from the beach, said she would get us tickets to the Beatles concert in Washington, D.C. Suzanne was a year old than us, the only daughter of a career officer Marine. She had befriended us, initiating contact first with a smile and a wave of her well manicured hand,  then asking us what we were reading. Suzanne was camped out with several adults with vaguely Southern accents and two handsome boys, one about our age and one who looked like a college man.  Mary Jane and I were having a Jane Austen and Charlotte Bronte summer, making our way steadily through the summer reading list Sister Mary  Seraphia had given us the last day of school. Suzanne carried lighter reading to the beach—Seventeen, Glamour, and Vogue. She used Bain de Soileil bronzing gel instead of drugstore suntan lotion like ours, and she had obviously bleached her hair, because we could see dark roots. We were instantly drawn to her, and soon closed our paperback copies of Pride and Prejudicewhen Suzanne offered to let us share her fashion magazines. We pored over Vogue and Glamour, Suzanne and I smoked cigarettes behind the cottage, and the three of us persuaded the parents to drive us to Ocean City so we could stand under the Esskay clock at Ninth Street and the boardwalk,where we tried to  meet older  boys, though with no success. By the time Suzanne  headed back to Fairfax, Virginia  with her parents, Mary Jane and I had secured her promise to  stay in touch.

We both wrote to Suzanne, and got back short, sweet notes from her. We made plans to meet in Washington one Sunday afternoon at a museum. We invited her to spend the weekend in Baltimore. But as Suzanne became busy with dances, dates, military balls and senior proms, Mary Jane and I easily fell back into our routine of studying during the week, the occasional movie or CYO dance on the weekends, and hanging out with a few friends from our all –girls high school. We knew Suzanne ‘s life was freer and more exciting than ours. Her letters told of dates with older boys, a special weekend of parties at Virginia Tech, and drinking too much beer in Georgetown bars, thanks to a phony ID she’d gotten her hands on. Mary Jane and I envied Suzanne but from a safe distance. We were not ready for such social experiments.

In December, Suzanne called Mary Jane with astonishing news. She had four extra tickets to the Beatles concert. It would be the Fab Four’s first concert tour in the U.S., and tickets were nearly sold out. Mary Jane’s mother put her foot down right away. No daughter of hers was going to a concert at the old D.C. Coliseum, with 6000 screaming teenagers, and who knew if a fight might break out, or a Beatlemania stampede. And that terrible neighborhood in Northeast DC  was no place for her daughter to venture into.

That’s how the four member Mercy High Baltimore Beatle Club came about—I handed over a couple weeks’ allowance to my mother, who wrote a check for twelve bucks payable to Suzanne, and five days later a fat little envelope arrived, addressed to me in Suzanne’s girlish scrawl with hearts for the dots over the letter I” and the notation BF! (for Beatles Forever!) above the seal.  Chris, Gay and Francine—who went by the nickname of Houch, pronounced “Hootch”, bestowed on her by a college guy she had a major crush on— quickly signed on, money exchanged hands, and my mother agreed to drive us to and from the concert in DC and for extra measure, said the girls could spend the night at our house. I wonder what my silver haired, fifty year old mother was thinking when she agreed to all this, and whether she knew just what she –and we–were in for.

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The Oven Bird’s Cry: Teacher,Teacher, or CherTee, Cher Tee?

The oven bird

The oven bird, seiurus aurocapilla, a variety of warbler,  resides in the Northeast U.S. in summer but winters in Florida and Central America. The oven bird  likes to be heard, but not seen–rather like a shy child who won’t stop talking but stays  in her room. It’s  known for its loud and ringing call, “Teacher, teacher, teacher, teacher, ”  or alternately, “chur-TEE chur-TEE chur-TEE.” Although birdwatchers reported seeing (or perhaps only hearing)  oven birds on Cape Cod near my summer digs as late as last December–our very warm winter in these parts– I’ve haven’t yet seen one this spring. Yet I know his voice, insistent and strong, because it’s in my ears as I plant a summer garden, attempting to transform a sand pile full of weeds into my approximation of an English cottage garden. As oven birds enjoy a diet of terrestrial arthropods and snails, I’m certain some of these warblers will be by sooner or later—I’ve spied dozens of snails in the long-abandoned garden in front of my kitchen.

Here’s what the oven bird sounds like—more a call than a song, but quite attention-getting:

http://www.allaboutbirds.org/guide/ovenbird/sounds]

New England’s iconic poet Robert Frost memorialized the oven bird in his sonnet of the same name. The work was published in 1916, in the collection called  Mountain Interval, published by Henry Holt and Company. For Frost, the oven bird is not so much a singer as a philosopher who looks ahead to the melancholy of fall even as summer is at its brilliant, sun-drenched best. My grad school professor, the late, brilliant Anne Davidson Ferry, taught me that  Frost’s poem was  an obvious reworking of Thomas Hardy’s “The Darkling Thrush,” part of a conversation between poets across  two decades. Still, as bleak as Hardy’s 1900 work seems, Frost’s is even more poignant, and what he teaches us is both disturbing and necessary.

 The Oven Bird

There is a singer everyone has heard,
Loud, a mid-summer and a mid-wood bird,
Who makes the solid tree trunks sound again.
He says that leaves are old and that for flowers
Mid-summer is to spring as one to ten.

        5

He says the early petal-fall is past
When pear and cherry bloom went down in showers
On sunny days a moment overcast;
And comes that other fall we name the fall.
He says the highway dust is over all.

        10

The bird would cease and be as other birds
But that he knows in singing not to sing.
The question that he frames in all but words
Is what to make of a diminished thing.

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Zen Dishwashing


for Tony

 

First, you’ll need a dishpan

preferably a cobalt blue plastic dishpan that

your mother bought in Poughkeepsie

and a couple squirts of

dish liquid. Green’s the best.

Take a mug with you,

leave the food-encrusted bowls

stacked where they are.

Really, they won’t move.

Walk barefoot to the bathroom

in your favorite pajamas

(or pyjamas if feeling British)

and turn up the faucet

to scalding.

Fill the dishpan two-thirds full

with hot water straight up

from the bowels of the dormitory;

don’t burn your hands.

Placing the mugs and bowls gently

into the now-sudsy pan, carry it,

treading carefully back to your room.

Don’t spill.

Add the dirty dishes.

Go away for some hours,

come back and remember

they’re still there.

Use the yellow dobie pad

to scrub off  bits of

Special K,granola,Cheerios

oatbran,wheat chex.

Leave the pad, take the dishpan.

Throw a towel over your arm

like a waiter in a New York bistro.

Pad back to the bathroom.

Rinse off each plate and mug

spoon and knife

the pan.

Above all, don’t forget the pan.

Lay the folded towel there.

Stack the dishes,

take them home

go about your business.

Repeat.

© 2012 Lynne Viti . All rights reserved. Do not reprint without permission.

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Opel-escent: The Art of the Jump Start, or My First Car

The Red Opel, photo courtesy of Adrienne True

I went directly from my Barnard College commencement, to my first graduate school class, at Columbia University’s Teachers College, four blocks uptown. After two semesters and two intensive summer terms, I earned my master’s degree and got my teaching certification. We baby boomers were flooding the teaching market, but I typed up applications to schools in New Jersey, New York, and to satisfy my mother, her school system in Maryland. I took the New York City teachers exam and hoped for at least a job as a permanent substitute. Then, through a serendipitous connection with a professor in the department where I worked as a part time secretary, I landed a job in the tony town of Rye, in Westchester County. I’d be teaching seventh and eighth grade English, and the money was good, as was the health insurance.  Playing a bit loose with our unwritten rental agreement with the landlord, we sublet our apartment on 116th Street to a dependable assistant professor who was happy to pay us fifty bucks more than our normal monthly rent. He was in no hurry to move into the city, and that would give us plenty of time to find new digs  in the suburbs.

As the opening of  school approached, we jumped on our motorcycle –which we were temporarily and illegally housing in our ground level apartment’s living room, having  spent what little savings we had on it a few months before, so there was nothing left for theft insurance. We scoured the area around Rye for an affordable place to live.  We had no luck at first: the apartments were few and out of our price range. I  was  forced to endure six weeks of carpooling with a middle aged  social studies teacher, a closeted gay man who listened to eight- track tapes of  opera every day on our drive to Rye—55 full minutes of Maria Callas and Leontyne Price. All the while he nattered on about this and that—small iniquities he’d  endured at the hands of the school administration, the obnoxiousness of middle school youth, the ridiculous demands of the curriculum, and the sorry excuse for a teachers’ union in Rye. Whereas I looked forward each working day to the challenges of the classroom, determined to win the kids over and make them learn as well, my colleague was bitter, tired, and pretty much friendless in the faculty lunch room. I started out feeling tolerant, then became bored with his chatter, then after a couple of  weeks, began to dread the rides to and from school. At the end of the teaching day, I wanted to stick around and plan my next day’s lessons, or stare down over-exuberant, misbehaving boys from my seventh grade class in a one hour afterschool detention, so I could become more credible—and feared—and have better classroom management. My opera aficionado driver was in the habit of bolting from school within four minutes of the last bell, and every Monday through Friday afternoon at 2:20  sharp, his car shot  out of the faculty lot so fast that I buckled my seatbelt tightly, and said a quick Hail Mary.

One Saturday I mentally tallied up the time spent on the road each week, between our apartment at 116th street and the ivy-covered walls of Rye Middle and High School. Ten minutes waiting for the Broadway bus, another five or ten minutes waiting on the corner of Broadway and 96th Street for my ride, 45 minutes on the Hudson and Hutchinson Parkways, then another five minutes from the parkway exit to school: sixty  minutes times ten. Ten hours a week, time I could be spending correcting papers, planning lessons, and boning up on remedial reading, since I’d been assigned to a class of weak readers, but had absolutely no training in diagnosing or dealing with dyslexia. “You’ve been misassigned!” my mother said. She’d quickly decided my department chair didn’t know what he was doing—or didn’t care. Once more, she encouraged Rick and me to move back to Baltimore, where I could get a cushy position teaching English at a new, state-of-the-art high school.

We  stayed put, at a safe distance from both our families. Rick gave his notice to quit in the university’s Central Stores department, and we mapped out a strategy—apartment hunting every Saturday, and we’d start asking everyone we knew—my colleagues, his aunt who lived in  Old Greenwich, even the librarians at the Greenwich Public Library.  We hit upon the notion that we should write up our own ad and place it in the local newspaper. After six weekends of fruitless searching, we turned up what looked like a good deal: a small studio apartment on the second floor of a  Cos Cob garage —an “unofficial”  apartment, no doubt. There was only one catch: we needed a car, since I couldn’t be riding on the back of our 750 cc Triumph motorcycle  to school each work day.

My first car was a red Buick Opel station wagon, not much bigger than today’s Smart Cars. My grandmother sold it to me for a hundred and fifty bucks, about two years after my step-grandfather died. Mimi, by then in her sarly eighties, had never learned to drive, but she was reluctant to part with the Opel for sentimental reasons. So there it sat, through two frigid Cumberland winters and two cool springs, lonely and half forgotten on the parking lot of Mimi’s senior citizen highrise apartment building. The car was seven or eight years old by then, but still looked in fine shape, its body intact and the paint job a shiny candle apple red. There was one hitch:  I had to learn to drive it before I could drive it. Aside from a few lessons on an aging Citroen Deux 2CV the previous summer, I’d never quite gotten the hang of a standard shift.  I took the train to Baltimore, and my mother drove me west to Cumberland where Mimi handed me two sets of keys and the  title, signed over to me. I paid her the first fifty dollars of our informal installment plan.

That same weekend, back in Baltimore, my father took on the task of teaching me how to drive the Opel—on the nearest steep hill. I had no trouble figuring out the “H” configuration of gears. It was starting up from a full stop, on a hill, that flummoxed me. “Let out the clutch! Let out the clutch! LET OUT THE CLUTCH!” Dad commanded, as over and over, the engine stalled and I had to start all over again—shifting into Neutral, depressing the clutch and shifting into first, then slowly letting up on the clutch with my left foot as I hit the gas with my right— and the engine, raced, then stalled again.

I was twenty-four, I wasn’t happy being treated like a sixteen year old just learning to drive, and I refused any more of Dad’s driving lessons . My mother, ever the patient teacher, took over the next day, and taught me how to use the emergency brake to start the car on a hill, until I began to feel more comfortable with the entire operation. Within two hours I knew how to start up from a dead stop near the top of Hilltop Avenue, going uphill. A few days later, I drove from Baltimore to Cos Cob without a  problem.

For a small car, Little Red was amazingly capacious. In our move from Manhattan’s Upper West Side to Connecticut, over the course of three days, we transported a queen size box spring and later, the mattress , lashed  onto the roof rack, a chest of drawers, a desk, a small dining table, one heavy upholstered armchair, two bicycles, and boxes and boxes of records and books. We could fit three passengers in the back, and two of us up front. Best of all, the Opel averaged 42 mpg, and gas in those days was only about thirty-five cents a gallon. The problems began later, when the New England fall moved from Indian summer days to cold, damp nights. Rick and I soon figured out that Little Red needed a good hard push to get it going enough to jump start the engine. I took to parking  on an incline, just in case there wasn’t a colleague around to give me a little push. The Little red Opel came to life readily on sunny days, but if it rained or threatened to, it was anyone’s guess how long it could take to get  her going.

We checked under the hood. Rick was handy with cars, and he replaced the spark plugs, the points, this and that, changing up everything. But the problem persisted. This is when I learned what a distributor cap was—after months of troubleshooting, Rick finally figured it out—moisture collected under the distributor cap and caused the system to short out. We took to drying the cap out in the oven at 160 degrees Fahrenheit, a trick that worked well enough. But it required too much advance planning for our busy and freewheeling –twenty-something lives.

There was another issue with Little Red—the shaking. Whenever I drove the Connecticut Turnpike or the Merritt Parkway  over  55 mph, the car began to vibrate, just a bit at first, then as my speed approached 60, the car began to shake in a very disturbing way. The steering wheel vibrated, the seats shook, and a jackhammer sound filled the car. My solution was to drive more slowly. I would fall into the slow lane, feeling like a little old lady, but too scared to keep up a good speed with all that rattling and shaking. It sounded as though the wheels were going to fly off. At twenty-three, I might have been willing to engage in a certain amount of risk-taking behavior, but driving a rapidly disintegrating car wasn’t in my playbook.

The adorable little over-the-garage apartment  started out as a love nest, but it was a difficult year for Rick and me. He didn’t find work for months, and as a result, was miserable much of the time. He tried his hand at carpentry, doing odd jobs for a few friends in the city, but not much came of it. By November, my younger sister had returned from her backpacking trip to Europe  with a broken heart and no desire to move back home , so we let her sleep on the couch. She got a job at a deli on Greenwich Avenue, and was soon joined in the living room sleeping quarters by Rick’s younger sister, who had dropped out of college after one semester.  She found a job in an office, typing and filling out purchase orders. Rick began cashiering and then managing the Eco-Center, with its rows of  natural foods, macramé and artisan weavings, and a parking lot of electric cars, none of which ever seemed to sell. The bucolic little apartment in Cos Cob was becoming a tenement of immigrants from Baltimore. The background music to all this was ”All Things Considered” in its infancy, Carly Simon and Elton John records, and the disappointing whine of Little Red, not quite able to start up  in the cold Connecticut mornings.

In late winter, an old boyfriend of our college friend Suzie showed up for what was to be a long weekend. He parked his old Dodge with its Colorado tags next to Little Red. Dan soon became a permanent fixture. He, too, sacked out on the tiny living room floor in a tattered old sleeping bag. He came and went at odd hours. I began spending more time with teaching friends, going to the theater in the city, out for drinks every Friday after school, or to the public library, where I hunkered down in a corner, grading papers and obsessively writing in my journal.

Little Red continued to act up at least two or three times a week, and always, it seemed, when I needed to get to work.  The car didn’t do well in the snow, and once or twice I got stuck on Cat Rock Road and needed a push out from our novelist neighbor across the road.  By the time spring came, I was more than happy to promise  my first car  to my twenty year old sister-in-law, who was heading back to southern Maryland  to resume college. In mid- June, when my first year of teaching came to a close and I gratefully received my summer balloon paycheck, I went directly to the local Volkswagen dealer.

Within two days I had a sapphirblau Super Beetle, a car loan with a monthly payment coupon book, and no radio.  I packed up some favorite books, my sewing machine, summer cloths and my trusty Smith–Corona electric typewriter, and drove north to Cambridge, Massachusetts, as good a place as any to study Celtic literature and intermediate French, and to get my head straight after a taxing year as a mentorless young middle school teacher living in an overpopulated, undersized hippie commune. Rick stayed in Cos Cob, and as our sisters went their separate ways back to school, he was tasked with evicting Dan, our last remaining garagemate. Driving north to Massachusetts, I gave hardly a thought to the little red Opel. Eventually I’d have to write to my grandmother and let her know I’d sold it—for twice what I’d paid her for it.

But that could wait. I was feeling the inexorable freedom that comes with a reliable new car that could take me away to Cambridge.  When I put the key into the ignition, the VW started up, humming evenly. There would be no more parking on steep hills or calls for a good hard push to get the engine going. Lesson plans, my cranky old department chairman, and jump starts in the cold morning rain fell away as I drove up the ramp to Interstate 95 in the late June sunshine. As I shifted into fourth gear and the speedometer hit 70, I found myself humming a Carole King tune. Then  I sang out loud, all the way to Boston.

The 1971 sapphirblau Super Beetle, Greene Street, Brookline, 1974. Photo by Margaret Carvan

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Cousins’ Club, Part 4: Requiem for Mary Jane

The day before I graduated from law school, I was married– for the second time. Both he and I were veterans of early starter marriages,  both  single for a decade. We met at an enormous  party in Jamaica Plain, in a house opposite Franklin Park and around the corner from an old stable. We did not lock eyes across a crowded room, like the song in South Pacific recounts. It was a rather empty room, as  most of the party was going on a floor below in a cleared-out living and dining room area that the houses’ residents, performance artists, used for their drumming practices. We stood next to the snack table. He introduced himself, as did I, and we began chatting. Within forty five minutes, I knew we had traveled parallel paths—early marriage, followed by long, difficult and ill-fated relationship with a younger partner, Catholic father, Episcopalian mother, and no children. Politics slightly left of center, check. Loved books and music, check. Had been through some  therapy, check. We soon fast tracked to living together and planning a small wedding—his immediate family, mine, and three close friends.

First Parish Congregational Church, Manchester-by-the Sea, Massachusetts

 My parents, sister, brother in law and their infant son came  from Maryland for the wedding, in a small white Congregational church on Boston’s North Shore. There was a fine dinner at a small restaurant in Gloucester, lots of champagne, and a thunderstorm that we completely missed. The next day, my mother told me Mary Jane had gotten  some bad news, Mother said. I pressed her for the details, though she was reluctant to say much. Breast cancer, partial mastectomy. I reached for my address book and dialed Mary Jane’s  number.

 “I didn’t want you to hear about this till after the wedding,” Mary Jane told me. “ You didn’t need to be thinking about this at your time to be happy.”

 I asked her how she had found out she had cancer, about the surgery, asked her if she’d have cosmetic reconstruction. Did her children—a son and a daughter, both still in elementary school–know? No, she said). What was the prognosis? Did she have confidence in her doctor?

 “He’s kind of nerdy,” she said, “but smart, very smart. He tells it to me straight— he doesn’t sugar-coat it.” She said he seemed like a scientist more than a doctor. She felt confident that she was in good hands. She would have hormone therapy, not chemo, and yearly chest x-rays and follow-up from her surgeon and the oncologist. As I listened, I stood in our kitchen in the third floor walk up apartment, looking out the window near the old porcelain sink,  to the parking lot of the hardware store adjacent to our building. The trees along Cypress Street were green, their leaves full and lush. The sun was shining, and soon I would put on my pink and white cotton sundress with the cutout in the back, and then over it, the blue academic robes of Boston College, with the juris doctor hood. I felt tears well up as Mary Jane wished me congratulations and told me not to worry, everyone was praying for her and she knew everything would be all right for her  in the end. I twisted the phone’s coiled cord around in my left hand as I told her I would be thinking of her and wishing for the best.

 She lived for another eleven years, much of them seemingly free of the cancer, though in retrospect it was lying in wait. I saw her more frequently for a time, staying at her home with my five year old son when Mary Jane and I had our twentieth high school reunion, and then again five years later, when her cancer had begun to return with a vengeance. We went together to our twenty-fifth,  but as soon as we arrived, she gravitated as in high school days to her old Mt. St. Agnes crowd, and I, to my Beatle Club, as we had come to call ourselves. At the end of the evening, after the speeches, the wine, the stories and the laughs at our separate tables, Mary Jane and I met up at the door as we had so many times at those old CYO dances,  and we wended our way to her car. We gossiped all the way back to her house, about who had gained weight, who looked better than ever, who hadn’t shown up, who had surprised us by appearing that night. She talked about her children,  by now young teenagers, who were a constant source of delight and challenge. We fell into our old ways—she, the raconteur of hilarious tales, me, her audience, easily laughing at her stories. On my last visit, she was exhausted, and she refused to come to that year’s school reunion. “Give everyone my best,” she said. I hated going without her.

 A month before her forty-ninth birthday, after a year or two of  intense and escalating pain and suffering, supported by her steadfast and amazing husband and her friends, her now nearly grown kids and her mother and brothers, Mary Jane died– still young, ever devout and altruistic. My mother, by then in her early eighties, said Mary Jane’s death made her doubt God existed. I didn’t make the trip to Baltimore for the funeral. One more piece of my childhood was gone, and it would take many months and years to remember the good times, to forget Mary Jane’s last act, the unfairness and the randomness of her illness and death.

 There’s an old Kodacolor photo of the two of us at age three–Mary Jane was two and a half, really– from my birthday party. It is May, and I’m wearing  a smock dress, white anklets and black patent leather shoes.  A shiny foil party hat is perched askew on my head. Mary Jane  wears a blue jumper with a frilly white blouse.  I have no recollection of that day, except for a vague sense of women–my mother, my Aunt Kay, my grandmother–bustling about, keeping order among the toddler guests. The snapshot has aged with an oddly golden glow. Mary Jane, dark-eyed, her straw-blond hair held in place with a white plastic barrette,  looks straight into the camera, surprised.  With one hand, she holds a plastic whistle with a curled paper tail  to her mouth. With the other,  she drags  a large pink balloon  near the carpet. I stand beside her, holding my own balloon and whistle, and we blithely stride forward,  into our futures.

© 2012 Lynne Viti

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Cousins’ Club, Part 3: Mary Jane Got Married

Church of Saints Phillip and James, Baltimore

Mary Jane   was married the same year I was going through a divorce. My starter marriage had been on the skids within a year or two after the wedding. I remember the  day my mother called to tell me Mary Jane and her boyfriend had become engaged, set the date. It was a Sunday morning, when the long distance rates were lowest. I was standing up in the kitchen of  the first place I ever lived alone, about five months after the Organic Gourmet and I had separated. The wall phone had a short cord, so I couldn’t move very far from it. I slid down the wall and sat on the floor  as Mother talked. I felt happy for Mary Jane but her world seemed so far from mine that she might as well be getting married on the moon. Her boyfriend was, my mother said, a nice fellow who’d gone to Calvert Hall. He worked for the government, the Treasury Department. As she told me this, I was thinking about how much I hated Richard Nixon and how deeply I opposed our war in Vietnam, which had been going on for most of my life, it seemed. “I hope you’ll come to the wedding,” Mother said. “Of course,”  I told her. “ Wouldn’t miss it for the world.“ My sister was living in Europe with her Dutch boyfriend and would not be making the trip home. I focused on finding the perfect dress, something elegant and black.

Mary Jane was married  in the same imposing white  church where Aunt Eileen and my once-handsome, long-dead, charming alcoholic uncle had wed when he was on a short leave during the war. There was a full dress nuptial Mass. My cousin looked radiant, beautiful really, and the groom looked at her adoringly. I was happy for her. And  I went through the motions of those familiar liturgies for my father’s sake, for by then I was so estranged from the Church I’d been raised in—all churches, really—that I spent my Sundays reading the Sunday Times and drinking strong coffee, savoring each section of the paper, starting with the news and then moving on in the same order each week, to  the book reviews, and the magazine. 

After the wedding, we moved on to the  reception at a Baltimore country club, and as usual in those days, I drank too much. I  flirted with Mary Jane’s cousins on her mother’s side, a family of boys a year or two apart in age,  freckled, blue-eyed guys who knew how to tell a good story. I bumped into Mary Jane’s grade school friend, a high school classmate I hadn’t known well but had always thought quite cool and funny, and Fran and I stood at the bar making mean remarks about people we observed from our post. I thought I was being very sophisticated, but in truth, I was miserable—lonely, depressed, sad about my marriage slowly disintegrating and fading. Around us, everyone seemed happy, and when it came time for the groom and his mother to dance the polka, I felt myself stepping away from the knot of  guests encircling the dance floor. At first,  the groom and his mother  whirled around and around, just the two of them, and then, gradually, they were joined by a few more couples, then more, until the onlookers were far outnumbered by dancers.  I wandered back to the bar, held out my glass to the bartender and asked for another J & B, please, on the rocks.

© 2012 Lynne Viti

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Cousins Club, Part 2: Two Roads Diverged

Mercy High School. Baltimore, MD

According to my aunt’s plan, Mary Jane was to move on from Mount Saint Agnes Lower School, ensconced in its octagonal building on the hill in Mount Washington, across the campus to the adjacent  Mount Saint Agnes High School and the college –a life sentence of sorts. But by the early 1960’s   the Sisters of Mercy closed their small high school to conform to new accreditation standards. Mary Jane and her school friends were funneled to a new school that welcomed students from all over the city. There, the daughters of doctors and lawyers would sit  side by side with girls like me—the children of barkeepers, door-to-door salesmen, printers, masons and cobblers. I was placed in a group required to take Latin and an experimental math curriculum from the University of Chicago, while Mary Jane and some of her grade school friends were tracked into a much less challenging class. My classmates and I were soon  deemed “brains,” and it became obvious to  the three hundred and twenty-five freshmen that Mary Jane and her friends were  the cool ones. “They’re in with the In Crowd,” my friend Chris joked, quoting a popular song of the day. “They know all the latest dances…it’s easy to find romance.”

The In Crowd  knew how to push the limits of school rules on hair and makeup –nothing too teased, nothing too blonde, but a little backcombing was all right. The Rules permitted no eye makeup, though what nun could detect  a touch of  mascara on a girl?  A little lipstick was all right, if it wasn’t too dark or iridiescent, but  colored nail polish could earn you a detention. My friends and I came to school with well scrubbed faces.

Mary Jane and I might nod to one another in the halls at school, and we sat at different lunch tables, as the cafeteria was a Petri dish for mean girls, in -groups, pecking order competitions, and the like. I might stop by her table and say hello, but nothing more.  Her friends regarded me with an odd  mixture of tolerance and disdain.

St. Ursula's School and Hall, Parkville, MD

But outside of school we remained weekend friends. Aunt Eileen would bring Mary Jane  to my house after supper, and  my mother chauffeured us to St. Ursula’s Catholic Youth Organization’s  weekly Friday night dance.       In that era of same sex Catholic schools, CYO was an oasis of coeducation—one prayer  by Father Martell to start off the night, then three hours of dancing, talking, and flirting. You waited for the boys you liked to come over and joke around. John  turned up his sport jacket collar, unfolded the lapels, with his ersatz Roman collar,  pretended to be a priest hearing your ersatz confession.  I always  hoped for one slow dance with Sam, St. Ursula’s best dancer. He was tall and  slender,  with  wavy chestnut hair. Of course, he  had a steady girlfriend, but she tolerated his dancing with other girls, so long as it was just once or twice in an evening. I tried not to stand with the girls who lined the walks. Alone, I might get a  shy but handsome boy in my sights so I  could make a beeline for him if a ladies’ choice were announced, a slow, languid song, like Skeeter Davis singing “The End of the World” or the Angels’ “‘Til.”

My imagination was so colored by Seventeen Magazine ads that I imagined my Wind Song perfume would mingle with the smell of his English Leather aftershave or — if I was lucky enough to dance with Sam– the scent of Marlboros, permanently absorbed into his herringbone sport jacket.  After we danced the last dance—if we were so lucky—with boys we barely knew, Mary Jane and I would meet up in the entryway to  the church hall. I might catch a glimpse of my classmate Gay over in the corner with her much older boyfriend. They liked to stay in the shadows, he, hunched over her, she looking up at him adoringly. I never wanted to acknowledge her, for it would feel like interrupting an intimate moment. I wondered what that must feel like, to be that oblivious to the rest of us, the uncoupled ones.

Wind Song, by Prince Matachabelli

Back at my house and upstairs in my bedroom, Mary Jane and I practiced smoking. At first we cadged cigarettes from my father’s pack, which he sometimes left on the commode in  the bathroom.  I would pocket a couple L & Ms and sneak  an ashtray and matches into my room, stashing it in my underwear drawer before we left for the dance. When we came back, we’d get into our nightgowns and sit on the floor by the window, which we opened wide even on the coldest winter nights. We’d light up and work on our technique. She worked on  blowing smoke rings, while I was attempting to French inhale, which I had heard about the year before when I was still in junior high. My parents must have smelled the smoke and known we were experimenting, but neither of them ever said a word about it. Eventually, Mary Jane and I saved our smoking for the break when the CYO hall emptied out for fifteen minutes, or lighting up outside after one of my parents dropped us off. We thought we looked so sophisticated, or in the parlance of those days, so “tough.”

Gradually,   Mary Jane’s social life and mine diverged just as our school lives had.  I was a much more serious and ambitious student than she, and her friends  were more precocious  than mine. More of them went steady and wore boys’ school rings, filled with wax to fit the girls’ smaller fingers. More of them were on the cheerleading squad, which consisted of petite, pretty girls with teased and sprayed coiffures  and carefully plucked eyebrows. My friends were an eclectic bunch, but all of us were studious  and focused. We were the journalists, the actors, the math whizzes.

By the time we were sixteen, I was immersed in a new world of books and politics. I read Dr. King and Stokely Carmichael  and I got into arguments with my father and with conservative friends at school about civil rights. My father was more than annoyed when my letter to the editor advocating integration of all  public entities in Baltimore—schools, swimming pools, restaurants and bars, department store dressing rooms—was published in the Evening Sun.  I was fifteen, and I had written it on my own. I hadn’t shown it to a soul, just typed it up om my Smith-Corona and mailed it to the editor. My mother, though proud of my publication, suggestedI should have used a pseudonym. My father said nothing, but conveyed his position  through silence.

Mary Jane and I saw each other at family gatherings, but less and less frequently. I was university-bound,  with dreams of school in Boston or New York, and she allowed herself to be steered to a local junior college. She left after a semester or two, and went to work, which she seemed to prefer to taking classes. She moved into an apartment with a girlfriend and came home for Sunday dinner. I was drawn into the anti-war movement  on my campus, and on my rare visits home, refused to go to Mass with my father, and  annoyed  my mother with my swearing and my left-of-center political views.  I married when I was a senior at Barnard because my parents wouldn’t pay my tuition if I defied them by living  in sin with my boyfriend.  I returned to Baltimore less and less frequently.  While I was refusing to work for the Man, Mary Jane was filing and typing at an insurance company’s office. While my friends and I were drinking cheap red wine, sitting around listening to Bob Dylan records and analyzing the lyrics, Mary Jane was working a second job at a Baltimore department store and dating guys with short hair and steady jobs. I was so absorbed in my rebellion against bourgeois values that I didn’t give her much thought any more. It  1969, and now, we had nothing in common.

Mathematics Hall, Columbia University, May 1968

© 2012 Lynne S. Viti

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Cousins’ Club: Party of Two

Mary Jane, 1963

I was from a small family–just my parents, my younger sister and me,  but we had what seemed like an endless  supply of cousins—-older cousins, like Bunky who had been in the army and had played hockey in college,  drove a Thunderbird convertible and now sold freezers. Before that, he sold Esther Williams swimming pools. Or Michael, nine years my senior, who was in ROTC at Loyola and got his commission as lieutenant when  he graduated. We never saw him, as he was in training all over the country, then posted to Germany,  then  to Vietnam,  ascending the ladder to his pinnacle, three star general.  Mary Jo completed  her nurse’s training but then changed paths, and  went to college, majoring in English. She married a man from Massachusetts  and they moved there from Washington, DC soon after their first child was born. By the time I graduated from high school,  she had two  children and one on the way. Eventually she had five,  and she became a busy, full time stay at-home mother.

There were younger Baltimore cousins, and there were the Montgomery County, Maryland and the Ohio cousins, first cousins once removed. We saw them infrequently, and I never got to know the Marylanders as well as the Ohioans, all  scattered around the suburbs of Cleveland.  There were two “old cousins” from Pittsburgh who had “been sent to California to die,” from tuberculosis, in the 1940’s. Their mother and my grandmother were sisters; their father had made a fortune in stocks, the story went, and the old man had set up a rigid, permanent irrevocable trust that made it possible for them to live off the interest comfortably, then , msyteriously, revert to his secretary’s desdcendants, after my two childless cousins died in the late 1970’s. Neither of them succumbed to TB, and  both lived well into old age. John became a real estate agent in a California desert town, and Virginia, who lived Los Angeles, was a very Catholic writer who specialized in taking in and rehabilitating women who were down on their luck in one way or another.  John was a recovering alcoholic,  formerly a   hard drinker who partied with Jean Harlow and Errol Flynn in the old days. His sister Virgina was pious and strait-laced. She had been rejected by more than one order of nuns because she was not hardy enough for the religious life. She wrote  two books, biographies of St Margaret of  Hungary and Meg, daughter of St. Thomas More.

Cousin Virginia and I corresponded for a time when I wrote for my  high school newspaper and fancied myself a journalist Her letters were long, typed on onionskin, and punctuated only with ellipses. I moved on to corresponding with John once I reached college. He was a much more romantic figure to me.  By then he had left the U.S. under nebulous circumstances, possibly  involving a crooked real estate deal, and had taken up a vagabond’s existence, living in Tangiers, Marrakech, and finally, Sri Lanka where he died. Not until I was in my thirties did I realize John was gay. I heard from my mother that John had  adopted a young, handsome Sri Lankan fellow with the unlikely name of Ashley. The last time I saw him was in Holland, when my sister was married in Breda in the late ‘Seventies. By then he had been an expatriate for over fifteen years, and as far as I know he never set foot on American soil again.

Our closest  cousins were a trio we saw often–Tim, Mary Jane and Paul. They lived with their mother, who during World War II, had married my father’s brother, Francis. The marriage had not lasted long, because my father’s bright and handsome youngest brother had a serious drinking problem that made him completely unqualified to be a husband, father, or employee. He couldn’t hold a job more than a month or two, and over the years, my aunt and his brothers and sisters had tried everything—drying out clinics, consultations with noted psychiatrists. Within a fifteen year period, Uncle Francis went from the marital home first to a bachelor apartment, then to  a rooming house, and eventually to a down and out motel in Santa Monica, where he died in a mysterious gas explosion when I was in college.

But Aunt Eileen had family money, and she and the three children lived a peaceful, comfortable life in an affluent neighborhood of brick colonials and generous lawns, tucked behind York Road and St Mary’s Govans church. Those were the cousins closest to my sister and me in age: Tim was a year  and four days older than me, Mary Jane and I were seven months apart, and Paul was a little younger than my sister, Anne. Tim teased and bossed all of us, Mary Jane and I sought refuge in her  little front bedroom, and Anne and Paul played together nicely in the club cellar, or outdoors, in good weather.  Mary Jane and I were an unlikely pair—I had short dark curly hair and was fair, while she  had stick straight white-blond hair and skin that tanned instead of burning. I was plump; she was slender. I was a reader; she was more interested in television, music and movies.

The Octagon Building, Mount Saint Agnes Lower School, Mt. Washington, MD

By the time I was eight,  Mary Jane and I had developed a weekend friendship, something quite apart from our school friends. Mary Jane went to the all-girls Mount Saint Agnes Lower School,  populated by the daughters of doctors and  lawyers.  I went to the public elementary school near my home, where we might have as many as 45 kids in a classroom. One winter when we were eight, Mary Jane and I  took drawing lessons at the Baltimore Museum of Art, a short bus ride from her house. For years after that, even when we were grown with our own children, she would regale us with her account of our first bus ride to the museum. Though we had praticed a dry run with Aunt Eileen along, this was our first solo venture. Mary Jane wanted to get off the bus at the Boumi Temple stop, and as we stood in the front of the bus near the fare box, I kept telling her it wasn’t time to get off yet. The bus driver scolded us to hurry up, girls. I won the argument, and many stops later, we alighted at the museum, with its naked statue of Rodin’s Thinker on his pedestal in front of the main entrance.

The late, lamented Baltimore Boumi Temple, 4900 block of N. Charles Street

Rodin’s “The Thinker,” in its former location outside the Baltimore Museum of Art

Baltimore Museum of Art

On summer days, while my aunt was out doing her volunteer charity work at the school for special kids,  her elderly relative, Aunt Ann,  came to supervise the five of us. Mary Jane and I were allowed to take over the kitchen, making Chef Boyardee pizza from the kit, mixing the dough and pretending to throw it up in the air like the pros. Aunt Ann, an elderly relative of Aunt Eileen’s, was always in the background to keep an eye on us, but stayed out of our way. Mary Jane and I deciphered the pizza instructions, spreading the meager canned sauce on our rectangular crust, sprinkling the top with dried parmesan from the paper pouch.  We thought it was perfect  pizza, and the smell of baking crust was heavenly to us. In those days pizza wasn’t available at every school cafeteria and corner store, and we had no idea what real pizza should taste like. We thought we were gifted bakers.

Mount Washington Country School for Boys, Mt. Washington, MD.

Starting in sixth or seventh grade, our social lives began to diverge even more. Mary Jane began going to boy-girl parties with her Mount St Agnes friends and their male counterparts from Mount Washington Country School, a military academy where the boys wore smart gray military uniforms with yellow cord trim. I envied her active social life. I was stuck in public junior high, where my social life consisted of spending time with my best friend Ann either at her house or mine, reading Seventeen Magazine and watching the Buddy Deane Show on tv. One spring Saturday, Mary Jane and I trolled the aisles at the five and dime store near her house, inspecting the Tangee lipsticks, compacts, and Maybelline cake mascara and brush sets. I bought some bright blue nail polish, which I thought I’d try out before I got home and my mother could critique the garish color. Mary Jane bought some liquid foundation, because she had just begun to break out in acne. She couldn’t possibly go to the party that night with all those blemishes. “I’m going to wear this to the party tonight,” she confided. ”If my mother says anything, if she asks me what I put on my face, I’m going to say, ‘Blem–Stick, and I rubbed it in.’ So back me up.” I readily agreed to.

I lay back on Mary Jane’s single bed with its rich green spread and white dust ruffle, reading my library book as she showered in preparation for the party. We’d had our dinner and my overnight bag was packed. I watched Mary Jane pull two dresses out of her closet. Holding first one, then the up against herself, she asked, “Which one is better?”  The full skirts, with crinolines beneath, rustled as she held them both out at arm’s length for me to compare. “The blue one,” I said. She wasn’t yet allowed to wear nylon stockings, so she laid out some thin white nylon anklets and patent leather flats,  and slipped into the dress. I zipped it up, marveling at how small her waist was. She talked about which Mt. Washington boys she liked and which ones would be at the party. I glanced at the clock on her dresser, wondering where my mother could possibly be, hoping she would arrive soon so I wouldn’t have to be left behind at 336 Broadmoor while Mary Jane went off to her party.

But my mother was late, and I suffered the humiliation of standing in the front hallway with Aunt Eileen when Mary Jane, blond and spiffy in her crinolines and  party dress, responded to her mother’s interrogation about the foundation makeup.  “Blem–Stick, and I rubbed it in. Isn’t that right?”  She looked at me, and I corroborated her story. “Yes, Blem-Stick, ” I told Aunt Eileen.

The doorbell rang. Mary Jane ran out to catch her ride with a school friend. The other girl’s father, drafted to be chauffeur for the girls that evening, sat behind the wheel of a long, shiny black sedan.  Aunt Eileen and I waved from the front doorstep. I managed to croak out a weak,” Have a good time.”

On the drive home I confesssed to  my mother that  I felt fat and left out. She told me then what she would repeat for years afterwards, whenever I bemoaned my weight, my boyfriendless state, my unpopularity at junior high.

“Your day will come,” she said, and for some reason, I believed her.

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Getting To Christmas

Photo by Marvin Lightner, http://www.exploratorium.edu

When our  sons  were young, my husband and I began a tradition of taking them to a play or concert on the weekend or two before Christmas. For several years, after Mister Rogers featured two principal dancers on his tv show, both boys were fixated on the Nutcracker Ballet. In those days, we economized by choosing a  production by Walnut Hill School . We figured that at  age four and seven, the kids wouldn’t notice that the ones executing the pas de deux and the grand jetés were mere high schoolers. We settled on the matinee, and burgers at Friendly’s afterwards.  The next year my father-in- law gave us  tickets to the Boston Ballet’s Nutcracker.  So decked out in reindeer sweaters and corduroy pants, the boys not only enjoyed orchestra seats at the ballet, but were delighted to shake hands with the fully costumed Nutcracker prince and  Sugar Plum Fairy as well as one of the mice, at a fancy cocktail reception in the Boston Four Seasons Hotel.

All too soon, the boys became  too macho for the ballet, and my husband suggested  Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. By this time a “fancy” dinner– any restaurant that did not serve pizza as its specialty dish–became part of the holiday theater experience. We drove to Providence, saw an Angels in America- inspired Christmas Carol (ghosts of Christmas past, whirling overhead on a pulley contraption; female Ebenezer Scrooge), and got soaked clear through our coats walking in a downpour from the parking lot to a snazzy Italian restaurant –wine for the parents, pizza for one boy, and pasta for the other. The next year, we  went to  Christmas Revels at Harvard’s Sanders Theater, and afterwards, tucked in to TexMex food. Our younger boy loved the Revels—the costumes, the audience participation singing, the period instruments, and most of all, the antler dance. But the older one, by now in his early teens, decidedly did not. He rebelled, the next year staying home in bed with a fever–or perhaps  he meddled with the thermometer to escape revelling. We got a last minute babysitter (our church  rector’s son, as I recall) took our ten year old and  skipped the dinner out that year.

A Child’s Christmas in Wales went over pretty well with the boys  the next year, or perhaps what they really liked was  dinner at Legal Seafoods on a bustling night in a suburban mall. At the play’s intermission, the kids asked us to buy them nosewarmers-–worn by the actors in A Child’s Christmas, and sold at intermission to benefit the Boston Repertory Theatre. We suggested they spend their own money; they decided to forego the nose warmers.

Over time, the holiday outing metamorphosed–or faded–into dinner and a movie, and once the firstborn went off to college in Maine, the tradition fell off altogether. At first that made me sad: it was another sign that our children were forging their own ways in the world and did not want to adhere to their childish ways. They had plans of their own, and these excluded  their  parents.

But with the disappearance of our foursome’s family ritual, there came a new one: the empty nesters’  holiday outing.  This year at summer’s end, my husband ordered tickets for Stile Antico, an early music group of twenty-something singers from Britain. For two hours last night we sat with a couple hundred others in a grand, marble arched Catholic church in Cambridge. Until a few moments before the concert began, frigid air from the street flew into the narthex and into the back of the church where we sat in straight backed wooden pews, still bundled in our coats and woolen scarves. An enormous advent wreath, at least six feet in diameter, was suspended from the ceiling where  the transept and main aisle intersected, its wide  purple and pink ribbons stopping just short of the tallest concertgoers’ heads.

“First one to see someone you know gets a prize,” I whispered to my husband, who responded, “Bet we don’t know a soul here.” A striking woman with long  white hair gathered back walked by, and I recognized her as a former administrator from the college where I teach, but that didn’t count because I didn’t really know her, nor she me, before she retired a decade ago. Almost immediately after that I spotted a former student from several years ago—long enough that it took me half the concert to remember her name. She didn’t see me, so that didn’t count either.

The singing began. First, the women’s voices, clear, strong, sweet, emanating from a place I could not see from our pew near the back of the church. Then men’s voices joined the women’s, as the singers quietly took their places in the chancel. The women wore fashionable black dresses, the men, black shirts and pants. But the singers were merely the vehicles for the music, and to a lesser extent, the words— Tallis, Byrd and plainchant. The music made by these thirteen young voices swallowed up the Latin prayers. As I looked out over the audience, the music went into my head on the wings of the church Latin  I had learned as a child and adolescent before the days of Vatican II, when the great theologians and bishops banished the Latin Mass to a few outlier parishes. Old, familiar phrases— qui tollis peccata mundi, misere nobis, magnificat anima mea Dominum, swirled around my head, and then as the singers repeated and repeated the words, the sound fused with the words, then made its way into my head and my heart. I was no longer sitting in a cold church a stone’s throw from the Harvard yard,  with hundreds of strangers in  wool or down jackets. I was somewhere else, where human voices were so excruciatingly lovely and moving that it seemed the closest one could ever get to choirs of angels, or whatever you might call otherworldly, near-perfect beings. These  voices became pure sound, capturing me, eliminating all distraction, bringing wonder, then calm.

Stile Antico

As though jolted from deepest sleep, loud applause  brought me  back from where the voices had taken me.  We ducked out of the church just as Stile Antico finished an encore, a 16th century Spanish motet.  Cold and hatless, we walked back to the car, threading our way past pubs overflowing with ebullient young patrons in Santa suits or elf costumes.  We were  forced us back into the twenty-first century.

Over the next few days my husband and I enacted our own rituals from the years when we first met, the time Before Children:  last minute book buying at New England Mobile Book Fair, reviewing our gift list to be sure we didn’t favor one grown son over the other; lugging the Christmas tree up from its bucket of water (usually iced over) in the garage; giving the living room its annual deep  cleaning, from under the carpets to  the  corners and crannies of the sofa.

Today is  Boxing Day,  and the trick is to stay more than a  step ahead of the December blues. The leftovers from  Christmas dinner are stowed in the fridge. The cousins from Maine left this morning. Two lone pieces of pie sit covered with plastic wrap on the kitchen counter. Most of the detritus of Christmas–the bows, the gift wrap, the boxes–has been sorted into recycling bins in the garage.

At  5 pm it’s fully dark. I turn on the outside Christmas lights and make myself a cup of tea. The house, so full of laughter and talk of politics and music and jobs this time yesterday, is silent. The days are growing longer, imperceptibly, but confirmed by the daily newspaper’s almanac: ” Sunset, 4:17 pm. Day of year: 360.”

Before we know it, we’ll be cutting  forsythia to force its brave yellow blossoms from tall, spare branches, early notes of  spring.

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In Thanksgiving

Often it was a quiet day for the four of us, my parents and my younger sister in our small dining room, the mahogany table covered with table pads and the mint green holiday tablecloth. The table had been carefully set the evening before, with the good china, rimmed in gold and featuring a single sheath of golden wheat, and the ornate Stieff silver. My father liked to rise early, well before sunrise, and begin his cooking. By the time my sister and I made our way down to the kitchen, the bird was in the oven, and the sauerkraut and spareribs gently simmered on the back of the stove. The potatoes were peeled and resting in a large pot of cold water on our little back porch. If the weather was grey and rainy, as it often was, we would linger over the morning paper, watch television,  play Sorry or Monopoly.

When we were a little older, our father might take my sister and me to the City-Poly football game. By the time I was in high school, I wanted only to go with my Mercy High friends to the Turkey Bowl, the annual Calvert Hall-Loyola matchup. Both games, steeped in years of rivalry,  were played at Baltimore’s old Memorial Stadium, and the Calvert Hall-Loyola  game on those brisk Thanksgiving mornings provided ample opportunity to see and be seen by the cutest boys in Baltimore, as far as my friends and I were concerned.

Calvert Hall v.Loyola,Thanksgiving, 1962

Dinner was always the same menu,  served around five o’clock: turkey with dressing, mashed potatoes, green beans, two kinds of cranberry sauce, giblet gravy, sweet potatoes with brown sugar, sauerkraut, and my mother’s sole contribution to the table—if our housekeeper hadn’t made it the day before—Waldorf salad, a  concoction of diced apples, walnuts, raisins and celery held together with Hellman’s mayonnaise– that never made much sense to me and which I ate only under orders, because I wanted to get to the pie. The pie—always apple, always made late the day before by Burnell from her mother’s Virginia recipe—was uniformly wonderful, year after year. There was no mystery to it as far as ingredients went. Burnell used an old coffee cup to measure out flour and tossed in a hunk of Crisco and a little salt, then splashed ice water with one hand while she began mixing the stuff with the other. She worked quickly, and within a couple minutes turned out the dough onto a floured board and began quickly rolling it out. The used a paring knife to trim the top layer of dough, crimped the edges just so, and made slit for the steam to escape during the baking.  With the extra dough, she made a small sugar tart of sugar, cinnamon and butter. That was the small day-before-Thanksgiving treat for my sister and me, and we each ate our half while the dough was still hot and flaky, just cooled enough that we wouldn’t burn our tongues.

Over time, the Thanksgiving food became less important to me, though the reassuring cooking smells of roasting turkey and the rest provided an essential background to my coming and going to friends’ houses, to football games, to movies, and parties. By the time I was in college, I began to treat Thanksgiving break as the start of the Christmas-New Year party season, though invariably I arrived home from school with a suitcase full of books that I never touched until I stepped onto the train back to New York. In those days, final exams were scheduled for mid January, so Christmas was a time of cognitive dissonance. I knew I should study, but I was having too much fun catching up with high school friends, prowling parties and dances for interesting college men, and learning to drink scotch with friends of my parents at the odd intergenerational cocktail party.  I even tolerated extended family gatherings, where I was cross examined by older cousins and uncles on the politics at Columbia, which they called “that communist school up in New York.”

In my twenties, I often made a point of refusing to make the four hour journey south for Thanksgiving, instead, hanging out with teacher friends at a potluck supper, or scrounging an invitation to Thanksgiving with families of  my students oin Connecticut.  Gradually my visits home at  Thanksgiving became fewer and farther between, and by the time I was thirty my parents had decamped for their annual Florida sojourn by  October. There was no longer a home within driving distance on Thanksgiving, and I spent my holidays with my own growing family –my Rhode Island-bred husband and our two young sons–in the Northeast.

Two decades ago, my father died, two days before Thanksgiving. He had been ill for a few months, and I had visited him a few times in the hospital, flying in and out   of Baltimore on short weekend visits. By late November he was near death, cared for at my parents’ home by my sister, my brother -in -law, and visiting nurses.  On the Monday before Thanksgiving, my mother called to tell me it was time to come home to say my last goodbyes to Dad.  I left my husband and children behind in Massachusetts and flew to the place I had been raised in, afraid of what I was now called on to do, without a plan, without a map, without any sense of how to be the good daughter I wanted to be.

My father had been moved from home to a hospice facility by then, and I spent the evening and early morning hours at his bedside. He was comatose, hooked up to oxygen, deeply medicated with morphine. He no longer looked much like my father, only a shell of  him. His breathing was labored, his large blue eyes wide open as he struggled with each breath. The patient in the bed next to Dad’s, his cubicle separated by a striped cotton privacy curtain, dozed through a Mel Gibson action movie on the TV bolted into the wall near the ceiling. Someone turned off the television and lowered the lights. It was quiet except for the sound of Dad’s sharp intake of air and breathing out, over and over.  I shifted in the rigid chair and tried to loosen up my back. I sang quietly to him, a song he used to sing to me in his off-key way, when I was little, something that was popular before I was born. With my forefinger , I lightly  traced the faint scar on his forehead, a souvenir from his time in China, during the war.

He died that night, within minutes after the night shift nurse had given him the shot of morphine and suggested I might want to rest in a room down he hall reserved for family members who were on watch. It seemed I had just closed my eyes when she was gently shaking me awake, telling me my father was gone. I was disoriented and disbelieving. I went to him then, and held his hand and kissed his forehead, thinking I must do this while he was still warm, while his spirit had not yet left his body.

I called my mother and sister and contacted the funeral home to collect the body, and my mother drove me back to the  house. We sat up drinking tea,  talking and looking through an old scrapbook she had never shown me. It was  full of notes and postcards and valentines my father had sent her when they were courting. I fell into bed in the guest room at dawn,  wishing I could sleep for days.

When I awoke, my sister reminded me that we had made no preparations for Thanksgiving–nothing. I recall little about that day except for going to the supermarket that evening, finding a frozen turkey and wondering if we could possibly thaw it in time, pawing through the sweet potatoes to find enough good ones, looking for the stuffing mix Dad had always used.  I resisted the impulse to tell the few other late-for-Thanksgiving shoppers what had befallen me and my family. I moved through the aisles inefficiently, knowing what I had to do and making myself do it.

The next morning, my five year old nephew and I prepared the dinner. I was comforted by his innate kindness and his willingness to help. It was as though he understood the deep pain we were all feeling and felt it too in his child’s way, and wanted to help. His small hands mixed the stuffing, patted butter and sprinkled salt and pepper on the turkey breast and legs.  Standing on a study wooden chair in the kitchen, he was nearly my height, and his chatter about each cooking task kept me thinking about the next step in making the feast, even as the knot in my heart stayed constant.  There was nothing in the world to do except make the dinner, if I was to keep my head on my shoulders.

Bereft as we were that year, we still had a thanksgiving after all. The meal little Martijn and I made was not the seamless production my father would have created, but my mother, my sister and her family, and I were together. We had loved Dad and been loved by him. That day there was dinner, there was wine, there was a shared sorrow and there was a bond between him and us that could never be broken.

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“James S. Spigelmire, Owned Restaurant and Tavern.” The Baltimore Sun: 5.B.  Nov 28 1992.

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Take Gutman

Elizabeth Gutman  seemed extraordinarily powerful, both in intellect and in her clear resonant voice as she lectured on The Golden Bowl, in a packed, overheated third floor lecture hall. Yet physically, she appeared fragile. She wore no makeup. She dressed for winter in two or three layers of well-worn cardigans and a long wool coat, and her long blond hair was untamed and frizzy, a mass around her small face. Her eyes were a deep blue. She was the first college professor who came to know me by name.

I had transferred from a small Catholic women’s college in Boston, where I’d been a commuter, living at home in my family’s Dorchester three-decker. Coming to Barnard, I expected a more serious, all-consuming intellectual life, absent from my first school. I hoped to meet professors who would challenge an inspire me, not merely march me and my classmates through midterms, papers and finals. But I had no idea how hard it would be to find housing on campus . I lived for several weeks in a dingy single room occupancy hotel on the corner of Amsterdam and 121st, occupied by more than a few very old women. A  scattering of us, all  transfer students,  shared the dismal five bedroom suites with their dark, ancient kitchens and bathrooms.

It took what seemed like forever to find friends. There seemed no quick way to make connections with my teachers, either in or out of class. On the corner of 116th and Broadway, every afternoon and evening, a young black guy, tall and skinny, stood with  his hand out asking for spare change. I got into the habit of crossing  the street  block earlier than I might have, just to avoid him. Almost every day, I saw a woman who appeared to be speaking in tongues, yelling  into the receiver or a broken pay phone in front of the Campus Deli. The IRT roared by the campus. It was widely believed in my family that I had gotten above my raising, that the local Catholic girls’ college back in Boston was perfectly fine for me and my girl cousins. When I set out for New York  I expected to find a welcoming community of sisters and teachers who showed us how to live the intellectual life. Instead, I was surrounded by those  who’d had experiences I could only vaguely imagine. A girl in my orientation group with long straight red hair and ginger colored eyes lit a cigarette, exhaled slowly, and said, “ I was playing chess with an architect friend of mine last weekend.” The housing director was impervious to my frequent visits and polite requests for a room in the dorms. Had one opened up yet? There was never even a hint of a smile from her. Eventually she stopped responding except with a shake of her head when I appeared in the doorway of her office twice a week.

“Take Gutman,” said my official orientation guide, a breezy, self-confident sophomore who was giving me registration advice.. “Gutman’s amazing. She makes Proust comprehensible. “  A buzz spread among the transfer students. “I hear Gutman’s really good.

“What does she teach?” I asked. I had no intention of majoring in English.

“Who cares?” said another transfer, a graduate of one of those rich girls’ junior colleges.  “If people say she’s good, take her. I’ve had it with bad teachers, man.”

What I didn’t realize until I got to the first meeting of The Modern Novel was that Gutman’s classes were always full  and then some. But she never turned anyone away. Columbia guys routinely showed up to take her courses for credit, instead of enrolling just to meet girls.  Gutman didn’t care how many students she had; she just kept adding small discussion sections on top of her lectures.

I’d never heard anyone lecture about novels before. I found Gutman’s  classes  inspiring, stimulating, sometimes thrilling. Each seventy-five minute class sped along as she spoke. I was enveloped in her outpouring of facts, literary theories, and intriguing connections between writers and texts. It was in one of those small discussion groups, as we worked our way through Proust (n French, for those who could read it), Mann (for those who could) , James, Joyce and Faulkner that I was first able to speak out in a class there, to find a way out of my reserve and my feeling that I wasn’t smart enough to contribute to the discussion. Early in the term I handed in a paper, leaving it in Gutman’s mailbox with a note attached, saying how grateful I was that she’d created the smaller sections,  where I felt comfortable enough to raise my hand and speak. She returned the paper with many comments and probing questions, as always, but this time, she added an encouraging note. She said my ideas were worth bringing to our class.

I saw her at the college’s Wednesday afternoon teas, too, with her two blond children, the girl with thick braids, the boy all explosive energy, and I delighted in her greeting me—by name—with a wide smile and sparkling eyes. I have forgotten by now, all these years later, what I wrote my papers for her on, but I recall studying for the exam and relishing all I had learned about the roots of the modern novel, psychoanalytic theory, the New Criticism. Gutman had opened my mind up to all this. There was so much more to learn. I had no interest any more in political science or history. I would major in English. I would ask Gutman  to be my advisor.

After finals my sophomore year, I went home  for the summer and waited tables at a plush restaurant on the south shore. I stayed out late with my old high school friends, drinking beer at the park and going down to the Cape if someone had extra room at their cottage. I’d made some new friends at Barnard, mostly a tight little group of seniors who lived on my floor and had welcomed me into their camaraderie. One of them stayed on in New York for the summer, sharing an apartment on Riverside with some grad students. One day a letter from her arrived, with a clipping from the Columbia Spectator, summer edition. Gutman had died.

Lee had heard a story, one she didn’t really believe, she wrote. Gutman had been preparing for a family vacation. She packed two enormous leather suitcases, and when she picked both of them up at the same time, she suffered a massive heart attack and died instantly.  There were few details in the Spectator obituary, only a photo of her, that curly hair, and an intense, direct look in her eyes. I am so sorry, Lee wrote. She knew how much I admired Gutman and was counting on her. I wondered who would push me, steer me, encourage me now. And I could not figure out why the circumstances of Gutman’s death were a secret.

The summer passed in  a blur of waiting tables, wine poured, tasted and drunk, empty plates cleared, busy nights, dead- slow nights. On one particularly quiet evening the young assistant manager closed up early and let the help stay on to have a  party. In the enormous kitchen, we drank beer and one of the younger waitresses brought out her guitar and sang  folk songs. A bus boy, a black kid from Roxbury, sang a Miracles song none of us had even heard yet, it was so new. The boy, no more than fourteen, did it smoothly, lyrically. White and black teenagers and adults stood around the kitchen swaying, feeling soulful. It was easy at moments like this not to think about Gutman. I stopped myself from wondering what had really gone on in her apartment that day. I put it behind me.

And for a long time, I succeeded. I returned to New York in the fall, found a new advisor, a brusque middle-aged spinster who wore tweed suits and sensible shoes and didn’t care what courses I took so long as I satisfied all my major requirements. But several summers later—by that time I had married and, finding myself very unhappy, I  was already separated and well on my way to a divorce—I went up north to a writers’ conference. By now I fancied myself a poet. One of the writers there had known Gutman. I had come to work on my poetry, but to tell the truth, I didn’t get much done. Instead, I found every opportunity to talk to the writer alone, about Gutman. I learned in minute increments, over several days talking with this grizzled writer, that the circumstances of Gutman’s life were very sad—no, tragic, like the stuff of the novels we studied in her course that winter.  I dared not ask how she’d done it, whether her husband had found her, who had raised their children. I didn’t even know how to phrase the questions. I just sank back into my Adirondack chair, looking down at the grass. I felt such surprise; my face flushed hot. What had there been that I had not seen? What insights had I been unable to produce when the evidence had been right there before me? Whatever sadness and pain there had been in Gutman’s  life, I had been oblivious, dense. She should have become a gifted teacher who lived on to teach until old age came to her.  The best I can say, which isn’t very much at all from where I stand now,  is that she’d made her mark on me.

© 2011 Lynne Viti

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What We Were Wearing: From Weejuns to Bob Dylan Boots

I was seventeen,  standing in the foyer of Levering Hall at Johns Hopkins. In our ongoing campaign to meet college men, we  had come out on a school night  to Hopkins, to some sort of political meeting, or perhaps a poetry reading. My best friend MJ was with me, and so was our friend Alma, a year behind us in school. My mother had recently taken up knitting again, and she had turned out some fuzzy mohair sweaters. This night, I wore a pink one, loose and fuzzy, over a short dark skirt.

 Whatever event had brought us to the Hopkins campus was finished, and Alma’s very tall, very handsome rosy-cheeked brother was there to take her home. His friend looked short, but only because Bill was so tall, well  over six feet. He wore a navy blue shirt black tie, and jeans. Later, after he and I dated for the second half of my senior year, I came to learn that Bill thought this attire made him look vaguely like a Mafioso, but to me he looked like a Baltimore City police,   uniformed officer, but without the badge. Nobody dressed this way, at least no college guy I’d ever seen in real life.

 Wearing the dark brown skirt and white blouse uniform of Mercy High School meant that I never had to make decisions about buying clothes for school. Coordinated outfits, mostly sweaters and skirts, were absolutely necessary for Sunday Mass, Friday night CYO or going to plays or basketball games at Calvert Hall or Loyola.  The styles were dictated by Seventeen Magazine and the junior fashion boards at Hutzler’s or Stewart’s, the local department stores, which in turn probably received their marching orders from Seventeen and  Glamour . I had carefully assembled a small but workable out-of-school  wardrobe. Though I not yet  persuaded my mother to buy me a pair of Weejuns, I  had a few Villager skirts and sweaters,  the requisite Chesterfield coat with velvet collar, and  a shoulder bag that was the envy of my school friends.  Even on  the coldest winter day, we didn’t wear hats, or hoods. We eschewed scarves. Gloves and the Chesterfield coat were enough for us, no matter how frigid the weather.

 But once I started going with Bill, my preppy style didn’t play so well. He was an actor, which is to say he tread the boards at his all – male college, and sometimes, at  Mount Saint Agnes, its sister school across town. The theater crowd was sophisticated and cool. They had parties at the apartments of people who were at least twenty-five  and  sometimes—amazingly, to me—even older. They might gather around a small television to watch a special  broadcast of Brando in “On the Waterfront” while they drank scotch and smoked Marlboros or Benson and Hedges. One couple, Ray and his lover, were out of the closet–both in their late twenties, both in college, both army veterans. They, too, were in the college theater group.Ray and Fred  lived together in a large studio apartment on Belair Road, in a blue collar neighborhood, where rents were far cheaper than in the student ghetto.

From the time I was fourteen, my mother endured much moaning and crying on my part over my boyfriendless state. “You’re not  fat,” she would say. “You’re fine. Not every boy likes a rail thin girl.” By the time I started going out with Bill, she was so relieved  to see me with an active social life that she never asked for details on where I was going.  And I, in turn was vague. So long as I was home by midnight, I could do as I pleased. She trusted me to make good decisions, she said.

This particular night I wore a wine colored merino wool knot dress because Bill had sent a handwritten note, couriered to me by his sister before homeroom a few mornings earlier. “Kindness of Alma” was written in ornate script in the lower left corner of the envelope, and for the return address  F. J. Talma,   Francois-Joseph Talma, a nineteenth century French actors whose persona Bill had adopted.  In his letter, in florid, formal prose on vellum stationery, he  outlined the schedule for the Saturday night.  He told me the precise time  he would pick me up  and directed me to “wear dark, dark colors.” My mother wouldn’ t hear of my wearing black, so the burgundy wool dress — bought the year before for an afternoon  tea dance at the Naval Academy– would have to do. I laid out  the Chesterfield coat and  Bob Dylan boots.

 “Oh, we’re just going to a play and a cast party after,” I stold my mother. Indeed, there was a play—Genet’s  The Balcony, which I barely understood, and a party afterwards at the home of  a couple in their late twenties  who lived around the corner  from the Northeast Baltimore police headquarters, in the upstairs of a two–family house.  Everyone was older than me, and everyone was drinking. I sipped at a glass of white wine, and found myself watching—not really participating—in a conversation between two Mount St Agnes seniors  and a Jesuit from Loyola,  adviser to the drama club. The girls were tall, blond and sophisticated, and they laughed and chatted and then sang, for the benefit of Father Whatever His Name Was, a parody of a Broadway show tune. I knew the song, “Can Do,” from Guys and Dolls. “Can’t do, can’t do, “ they sang. “The Church says we can’t screw. Can’t do, can’t do.” The priest threw back his head and roared with laughter.

I was shocked. I  tried to show no sign  of even  mild surprise as I  half-smiled and backed away. I  found a sofa to sink into, and looked around the room for Bill. He stood in a far corner near the kitchen, holding court. “So I said to the professor, “I don’t think it’s a matter of pathetic fallacy. Rather, I think Dylan Thomas was…pathetically phallusy!’” Everyone laughed. I looked at at my watch and saw that it was 11:40, and even though my house was only  ten minutes  away, I became anxious.

 I was quiet on the drive home. Bill lit a cigarette and he, too, was silent. His mother’s car, an older model Dodge Dart, had no radio. I felt I had disappointed him, though I‘d tried my best to be the cool and sophisticated intellectual girlfriend I thought he wanted me to be.  He kissed me good night on the front porch. I didn’t ask him in.

 My mother was still awake down in the basement family room. watching an old movie on the black and white television, something with Rita Hayworth. Dad was upstairs  in  bed, long asleep, and Mom was in her pajamas and bathrobe, drinking  ginger ale.

” Didn’t we see this once, at the Northway Theatre,when I was  in fifth grade? ” I asked her. “Remember, it was  a school night. I fell asleep on the ride home, and  you had to tell me  how it ended.”

“Sit down, sweetie,” she said, patting the sofa next to her. “Wasn’t that Rita Hayworth a beautiful girl?”

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Love That Red

Growing up, my little sister and I  shared a room. And much more than a room–we shared toys, dolls and books, and a big double bed Mother bought at Sears. All too frequently, we fought—bickered, mostly. Once in a while, the quarrels became physical—a slap, a shove. Since I was four years older than my sister, I usually had the advantage, though she was scrappy and fearless, and sometimes gave as good as she got in the rough and tumble department.  When our battles escalated to the point that we required mediation by a higher authority, we went to our mother. “You two have to learn to get along,” she said. “If the United States of America and Russia carried on like this, we’d have a nuclear war. The world could end! ” If she said that once, she must have said it a hundred times. I dared not argue with her, because she sounded so stern and annoyed.

But  my sister and I knew we weren’t countries sharing a border, or having political disputes. Our  bedroom was small, and my sister kept encroaching on my territory, my half of the room. My half of the closet. My half of the divided chest of drawers. My side of the double bed we shared. Fights within the family, at our house, were not looked favorably upon by the authorities. Dad rarely raised his voice, except to shout at the television when the  Colts fumbled the ball or missed a touchdown. Mom might call to us (or scold us loudly for forgetting to wipe our muddy feet when we came in from play) but when she was at her angriest, her voice was quiet—in fact, you knew you were really in trouble when she spoke in that low, clenched teeth voice and her dark eyes flashed and almost bored into you. If she took you by the shoulders and made you look squarely at her, you were done for.  Such occasions were so rare that I can count them on the fingers of my right hand.

 Instead of quarrels, in our house, we had discussions. We aired our grievances.  We had family meetings. We had interrogations and dispute resolutions. And sometimes when I did something I’d been told not to time and time again, I didn’t even learn my punishment for a day or two. It was torture. And once Mother had dealt the sentence, she was in it for keeps, so it was best not to argue with her.

 A couple months shy of my tenth birthday, I tiptoed into my parents’ room and removed a new lipstick, Revlon’s Love That Red, from my mother’s dressing table. She was at work, and our housekeeper, Burnell, was in our kitchen making dinner. I went out into the hallway to look into the large mirror, the better to paint my lips. I opened the golden tube, and held the top in my left hand while I unscrewed the lipstick well above the top of the tube—too far up, because when I pressed the lipstick onto my lips too hard, a half inch of greasy Love That Red fell onto the rose colored wall to wall carpet. That was my mother’s pride and joy, the first wall to wall carpet she had ever had though she was forty-three years of age, and  we had only moved into our new little house with its splendid carpet the  year before. I panicked, quickly reassembling the lipstick tube and dashing back into the master bedroom to restore the lipstick to Mother’s makeup drawer.

Once I had returned the purloined goods, I tackled the cleanup. I took toilet paper from the bathroom nearby and picked up the shards of lipstick from the rug. I flushed the paper and the lipstick fragments down the toilet. Then I attempted to clean the lipstick that  had shattered on the carpet. Soap and water seemed like a sensible solution to my little problem. I dampened a washcloth with warm water and rubbing it onto the bar of soap at the bathroom sink, then scrubbed at the red stain on the carpet. It barely worked. After a few minutes of this, the stain had only spread, and looked worse than when I’d started. In desperation, I moved the little mahogany table that sat in the hall a little to the left, to cover the spill. I stood back and appraised the situation. Not bad, I thought. Mother will never notice that.

 I was wrong, for  I had forgotten the mangled lipstick, which Mother discovered the next morning as she was getting ready for work. “What happened to this?” she demanded, sticking her head into my room as I was getting dressed for school. “Haven’t I told you over and over not to go into my drawers and use my lipsticks?”

I professed to know nothing about it. I tried denying that I had used the lipstick. I tried blaming it on my sister, but she was only five and had no interest in such things as makeup, whereas it was well known in our household and our extended family that I was fascinated by such things—mascara, powder, perfume and most of all, lipstick.Onc e it was obvious that I could not assemble any sort of colorable defense for my conversion of the lipstick, I confessed. Then the real trouble began.

“Where’s the rest of this lipstick?” Mother asked me, twisting the misshapen column of red up out of the tube. It looked like someone had taken a bite out of it.

“Don’t know,” I answered.   Her eyes narrowed and the place between her eyebrows crinkled as she frowned.

“It’s been dropped,” she said. “Where?”

I knew I might as well come clean. “I dropped it when I tried to put it on. “

“Where?”

“There,” I said, pointing to the hall mirror. She wet over to the mirror, moved the little table, and looked down. Then I witnessed the full extent of her wrath. I heard, “Never can have anything nice….saved up for years for this carpet….no respect for other people’s things….”  Her words tumbled out. Then, she was silent for a few moments. As I stood there feeling guilty and fully expecting to be grounded for the entire weekend, I heard her say,” I don’t know what your punishment is going to be, but it will be severe. I have to think about it, young lady.”

When she addressed me as  “Young lady,” I knew I was in for a serious penalty, perhaps no TV for a week or two, no sleepovers at my best friend Ann’s house, no movies on Saturday afternoon, no radio on the shelf at the top of the bed, playing the hits at low volume till my sister and I drifted off to sleep to the sound of Fats Domino or Elvis Presley. Worse than any impending punishment was my mother’s disappointment in me, both for invading her makeup drawer, and for fibbing when she discovered the damaged lipstick. Head down, I slinked off to my room and tried to read the Dolly Madison biography  I had borrowed from the school library,  but I kept looking at the same paragraph over and over, unable to concentrate. I spent the next hour before dinner playing alone, in my room, with my sister’s doll collection. It wasn’t much fun, as she was extremely particular about her dolls in their  national costumes of  Spain, Holland, Italy, and  Russia. These dolls only stood there. Their eyes didn’t open and close, and they couldn’t turn their heads. I went to the closet and pulled out  my own doll, a Saucy Walker almost as big as a real live toddler. I combed and braided her hair, changed her clothes from her dress to pajamas, and waited to be called down to  dinner.

 Later that  week, Mother announced the Punishment. She did so quietly and dispassionately. “Your birthday is in six weeks,” she said,” but this year, no party.”

 I was aghast. “No party?”

 A year without a party was unimaginable. For as long as I could remember, I’d enjoyed large, elaborate birthday celebrations. My mid-May birthday seemed always to fall on a perfect sunny Baltimore day,  roses and late spring flowers  in full bloom, warm days, and still-cool evenings. One year my party included a Maypole dance in our back yard. Another year, before we moved to our new neighborhood of identical semi-detached brick houses, my mother decorated our attic at the house we shared with my grandmother and aunt, Ten little girls from our  neighborhood  played pin the tail on the donkey and  musical chairs. We ate cake and Neapolitan slices of ice cream under the pink and baby blue crêpe paper streamers.

 By the time I was in third grade my parties had become the stuff of legend at Hamilton Elementary School. One year we invited 30 boys and girls from my class, plus another half-dozen girls from my Brownie troop. We feasted on hot dogs, chips, ice cream and cake. Five picnic tables, most of them borrowed from neighbors, were placed end to end in our yard, from the  back stoop to the clothesline poles near the alley.  The  next year, Mother rented a special separate viewing room at the Colony Theatre, where 15 of us watched “Forbidden Planet” and afterward, shook hands in the lobby  with a model of Robby the Robot.

 This year I was envisioning a more grown up party, with rock and roll blaring and dancing  like the teenagers I watched every afternoon on “The Buddy Deane Show” on TV.  My best friend Ann and I had been practicing our dances for weeks—the cha cha, the Madison, the  jitterbug—and I had my collection of 45s carefully arranged in alphabetical order according to artist.

 “Please! “ I pleaded with Mother. “Please, I will never do anything like that again, I will never be bad again, I will never borrow your things again, I promise!” She was steadfast in her decision.

 “Does Daddy know about this?” I asked. She nodded. It was pointless to run to my father, as he backed her up on every disciplinary decision, without fail.

 “Couldn’t I just have  small party?” I begged her. “A few of my girlfriends?  Maybe just one for a sleepover? Please? “

“No party this year.” She was unmoved by my tears.

 I kept up my requests for reconsideration for a few days, but to no avail. She had made up her mind. And I would turn ten with no party. Nowhere to wear that new apricot colored chemise my grandmother had brought me from Rosenbaum’s Department Store  in Cumberland.  Nowhere to wear my new black patent leather dress shoes.

 Eventually I grew used to the idea that there would be no big party this May. There was a special family dinner on my birthday, a school day, and I got to choose the menu: Burnell’s  Southern fried chicken, mashed potatoes,  and green beans. And for dessert, a  yellow cake with chocolate icing that Burnell made from scratch. There were ten candles and my mother and sister sang “Happy Birthday” right  on key while my father, as tone deaf as ever, sang the words to his own tune, one  that sounded vaguely like “Cruising Down the River,” just like every other song we ever heard him sing. I opened my presents—books, a real watch, and a baseball glove—at the dinner table. It was a good birthday.

 Years later, my mother would often recall the time she called off my  big party that year.   ”It hurt me much more than it hurt you,” she said, for she loved social gatherings of all sorts, and she had never been given a birthday party even once during her unhappy, chaotic childhood. I laughed at that comment each time she repeated it over the years, knowing how much delight she found in bringing me and my sister joy, through planning and carrying out celebrations on our most important occasions—birthdays, First Holy Communions, confirmations, high school graduations, and later on, weddings.

 I learned three important lessons that year: You can survive your birthday without a party. Don’t  borrow someone’s lipstick without permission. And never try to cover up the damage you’ve done. Own up to it, and take your medicine.

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Dancing Girl With Headband

My mother was a born  dancer. Not a hoofer, nor a chorus girl. For most of her working life she was an elementary school teacher. But at heart she was a child of Terpsichore, muse of the dance. And I’m not referring to classical ballet or modern dance, though she clearly saw the value of these, enrolling my sister and me in the Taylor Avenue School of the Dance so we could learn to plié and arabesque with the other little girls. My mother loved any popular dance. But most of all, she loved the Charleston.

 She often told us about the time she won a Charleston contest at St. Rita’s fair, when she was thirteen. The prize was five dollars, and she beat out a dozen other Dundalk girls in the competition. I can only imagine what they danced to—a gramophone with a large horn for sound production? A live band from the local Moose Club or Knights of Columbus, perhaps.  And when my grandmother got wind of the news, either from a neighbor or perhaps from the happy prize winning dancer herself, my mother was whipped and punished, and one can only wonder what happened to that cash prize, likely confiscated. Whether it was jealousy or a sense of propriety that made my grandmother react this way, I  never figured out. More to the point, this episode did not cure my mother of what my grandmother called “making a spectacle of yourself.”

 When my father’s extended family gathered for holiday parties and the topic of dancing came up, my Uncle Bill would talk on about how he and my mother “could really cut up a rug”  back when they were young and running with the same crowd. At weddings, my mother would be the first one  out on the dance floor, though  my father could barely manage a foxtrot because of his bad leg. In the ‘Sixties, she was more than willing to get up and do  the Twist with me or my sister.  When I was in high school, she would watch Shindig! with me and my sister, rising from her chair to Frug or Hully Gully along with the television dancers. We thought this was hilarious, so long as she did not carry on like this in front of our friends.

 But most telling of all was the time my father stayed home with us while my mother went off to one of her state teachers’ conventions, this time at the Alcazar, an old downtown Baltimore ballroom and auditorium. I was  ten, and my sister, six. For weeks our mother had regaled us with stories of the comedy skit that she had helped write, highlighting education issues over  the  previous five decades. To show the changing times, her friend Jessie, one of the principal actors, reached under her chair and selected a new hat, choosing a variety of styles,  from broad-brimmed 1915 chapeau to Jackie Kennedy  pillbox. On the last night of Mother’s convention, our father told us to change into good dresses because he was taking us somewhere special. We’d already eaten, so we knew we weren’t headed for  Howard Johnson’s, our idea of dining out. He was very mysterious, simply mentioning as we headed downtown that we were in for a surprise.

He ushered us up to the balcony of the Alcazar’s auditorium. Onstage, sitting at the head of a conference table was Mother’s friend Jessie Parsons. She bent over to stash the 1915-era hat she had just removed from a large box under her chair and placed a ‘Twenties’ style cloche  on her head. Laughter erupted from the audience. Then, she appeared– our mother, in full flapper regalia—a sparkling shift, feather boa, long ropes of beads, high heels, and a feathered headband around her short coiffure. Charleston music blared from the sound system. And dancing next to her, wearing an old raccoon coat and waving a pennant, was Jessie’s ex-husband Lee. My sister and I bounced up and down in our seats and squealed as we watched our mother kick and strut, while Mr. Parsons executed the Bees Knees step perfectly. Teachers from all over the state rose to their feet, clapping in time to the music.  And then, as suddenly as it had begun, it was over. Mother and Mr. Parsons took a bow, to loud applause. My father whisked us out of the auditorium, though we pleaded with him to take us backstage to see our mother. “Did she know we were going to be here?” we asked. Our father just laughed and shook his head. “Your mother sure  is a wonderful dancer,” he said, and then he became quiet.

Perhaps he was remembering a  night many years before, when he was young, able-bodied and athletic. The Great Depression  may have hovered in the background of their romance, but that night they put their  worries aside for a few hours. That was the night he proposed, while they were dancing slow and close  at the Dundalk Post Office Outing, as the little orchestra played on.

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Baltimore Girl: An Introduction

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Some haul their memories around like a heavy sack. Others tamp memories down, trying to ignore the past so that they can get up each morning, put one foot in front of the other, and get through that day, and the next, and the next. And some of us pull  memories along on a tight leash, keeping  thoughts of the old times under control, working out a peaceful coexistence. Upon waking, sometimes  recollections  can be so powerful that it’s wise to lie in bed awhile,  pretending to do morning yoga stretches, all the while pondering a day many years past.  Whether it’s a burden or a gift to hold such vivid recollections isn’t for me to say. But I know I am blessed, or cursed, with an intense memory, and there’s nothing I can do about it.

 

When I indulge in this morning wool-gathering, I am sometimes transported to Old Baltimore—that  industrial city of the ‘Fifties and ‘Sixties, before the riots  after the assassination of Martin Luther King in’68, before Bethlehem Steel’s furnaces shut down for good in 1995, before the crack cocaine epidemic brought death and sadness to so many people in the city. Old Baltimore conducted its daily business at a slow pace. There was no bustle, as in New York or Chicago. The Baltimore Transit buses ran slowly but they were reliable, with some of their routes dating back to the 1890’s. There were no smart phones, only land lines and pay phones in bars or on street corners. There were no laptops, only adding machines, typewriters, the phone book and the World Book Encyclopedia. The Baltimore Sun’s  crime pages might report altercations at a Lanvale Street bar and a stabbing, but rarely shootings. If there were any gangs, they were punk kids from South Baltimore hot wiring cars, or a couple of small-time hoodlums robbing Highlandtown bars for small money.

 

Old Baltimore had its charms: a Southern politeness, a slow way of life in summers before air conditioning was everywhere. In August, The Good Humor man‘s  truck sounded its  bells as it made its way through our neighborhood of brick semi –detached homes. Children begged their parents for nickels and dimes and lined up for creamsicles and Rockets.   The neighborhood snowball stand in an alley a block from our house drew adults, teenagers and children alike. Teenaged boys scraped large blocks of ice while you eyed the rows of intensely colored flavorings. If you had an extra dime, you ordered marshmallow  topping, thick and gooey. Syrup and ice melted, dripping out the bottom of the paper cone and onto the steaming sidewalk. Old Baltimore had its spring rituals—the Flower Mart, the return of the Orioles to Memorial Stadium, and its gridiron boys, the Colts.

But there was a dark side to the city as well. We had our share of crooked politicians with well oiled political machines that kept them in office year after year. The most famous of these was Spiro T.  Agnew, born Anagnostopoulos, who  resigned in disgrace from the Vice Presidency and pleaded no contest to a charge of accepting kickbacks from contractors who worked on state projects. And de facto racial segregation was the order of the day for most of my childhood and until I was 17, in the city’s schools, at public swimming pools, restaurants, and amusement parks.

 

In elementary school we memorized the facts about our Monumental City: we were the sixth largest city in the U.S., vying with Houston now and then for that spot. We were the “port that built a city”  and our state, Maryland, was America in miniature because of its seaside,  plateau, and  mountains in the west.  On school  field trips we toured the Coca Cola plant, the Bond bread bakery, and the Shot Tower. We picnicked in Gwyn Oak Park and at Fort McHenry, made annual visits to the Zoo, and giggled at the naked statue of Rodin’s Thinker on a pedestal in front of the Museum of Art, the sculpture’s bronze all green from the elements. By the time  I was sixteen, I imagined that I had outgrown Baltimore. I was all  too comfortable at the Enoch Pratt Free Library’s enormous reference room, at the art movie houses on Twenty-Fifth Street, or wandering with a girlfriend into  Levering Hall for coffee—and to meet Hopkins men. I grew restless, and eventually I left for points north.My story, from Baltimore to New York to Boston, begins in a two-family house on the Harford Road Number 19 Parkville streetcar line, not too long after World War II.

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